Please Share Your Experiences of Jehovah's Witnesses Shunning You (page 2)

flipper

MYABABES- I know how you feel. These witness people can be so rude - it truly is criminal. I'm sorry you experienced that - you are right there is no excuse for it ! You feel angry because it is an unjust mean spirited thing they are doing. It is not natural. You have a right to be angry - over the principle of the thing.

LFC VIKING- The 2 elders acting 2 different ways towards you Viking - tells me that the Jehovah's Witnesses are NOT unified in the same beliefs and that the " unity " they brag about is non- exsistent ! It is an illusion ! The elder that shunned you is enslaved to " mind control " by the witness cult. The other elder who was nice to you was being his authentic self ( without cult mind control ) allowing himself to make a personal choice , asyou put it, to be nice to you on his own , in spite of what the organization says. Which was a good thing for him to do. I wish more of them would do what he did !

YOUNGLOVE 1999- You are right ! The Watchtower society tells the witnesses to avoid anyone not going to meetings like " poison " ! Good analogy on your part. It is sad your " friend " treated you this way - as you were showing her true kindness to see how she and her baby were doing. Yes - it is the cult controlling their minds - and yes some of these people make " horrible " friends as they do feel they are better than others. Their awful behavior is evidence of that !

AUDE SAPERE- I agree. The witnesses use different words instead of shunning to avoid looking bad to non - witnesses. They certainly do like to " dwell " on the fictitious " badness " they feel people have who are DFed or not attending meetings . They live in such an illusionary world it's crazy !

WORLD TRAVELLER- You didn't steal the thread World, it's cool, no worries . It truly is childish - the shunning the witnesses do and the disfellowshippings. Kids used to treat other kids like that when we went to school - very true. The witnesses are lost, as well as deluded. They don't imitate Jesus at all

dawg

Flipp, Huff here, as all of you know I don't like taking cap off men in anyway... I don't usually allow it... on the rare occasion that I take it it's usually for the greater good... Like my buddy who metioned above that he had to keep quiet at his daughter's wedding... I'd of probably let that slide too, out of love for the daughter.... but....Let's get ready to rumble.....

I'm not disfellowshipped, but everyone knows I'm apostate; there was this Jackass Elder who'd embarassed me one day when I was out in service, and even the Elders told hi he owed me an apology... it never came.... years go by...

Now my hometown used to be small, everyone knew me and I hate to say this but I was kind of popular....haven't lived there in years, but anyway, I see brother asshole at the grocery store, haven't spoken to him in years, he did the JW shuffle when he saw me and tunred away... anyone who's seen a photo of me knows I have red Hair, well, I was a mushroom cloud laying MFer, I was the Guns of Naverone...(Pulp Fiction reference)... I went up to him and said, "you arn't going to speak to me"...and before he could open his damned mouth I said in a loud voice "everyone in here look at this man, he's known me all my life as some of you have, He's a JW and won't speak to me even though I've never done one damn thing to him personally"... "he calls himself a Christian, does that kind of action seem like something Christ would do"? He ran out the door faster than Carl Lewis... funny as hell and several people came up to me laughing... it was great.... Great!

I actually look forward to a JW shunning me again... I will not let that shit fly... believe me, that won't fly....

lesterd

Seeing my wife cut to the heart by her self rightouse family, because of my fading, made my decission ever right. I was the apple of their eye when thier son, who is now an elder, was convicted of rape and went to prison, quote, my son stabbed me in the back, and I was their real son." Talk about back stabbing. MIL refused to stop visiting her son in jail, and the JC had me talk to her, she said Jesus himself couldnt make her stop seeing him. But they stopped seeing there sinlesss daughter socially because I stopped going to the meetings.

flipper

DAWG- I love the way you handled that guy in the grocery store ! I've been laughing my a$$ off since reading it ! I'll have to remember that method next time I'm in a public place and witnesses I know avoid me and won't say Hi ! I love your fortitude and stamina bro ! right on ! LOL! Great stuff !

LESTERD- Man, talk about double standards by your mother in law ! She'd visit her son ; a convicted rapist but not see her daughter and you because you stopped going to meetings ! Jeez ! Sometimes I just sigh when I read of this awful Jehovah's Witness behavior and look to the heavens - shaking my head . I'm so sorry you were treated that way. Peace to you friend

sonny60

Hello, again this is my 2nd post, yes i have been shunned by a witness. I dated one for 5years. I am just nothing to this person. But one thing that i have found is reading all of your post on this board. My heart goes out to each and everyone of you. I wasn't raised as a witnesses but my father and mother both always told me that no body is better then any body we are all the same. So I always keep that in mind when i have to talk to this person. I feel god is looking down on all of this and he will do something in his time about it. I would like to tell each and everyone of you on this board that you are all great people. My best to all of you finding your way.

4mylove

Dawg, you are my hero!

There have been too many to list on here and I'm not even a JW, i just married one that has been inactive for years.

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Maddie

I have experienced being df'd and been through the psychological torture of being shunned. At the time I was very sick and my life had become unmanageable in every way. I didn't attend a JC and all I remember is that I found out when I was shunned by a JW in the street and spoke to my son about it. Anyway although I still believed they had the "truth" I couldn't face going back but began the long road to getting well again.

As time went by I was getting my life back together but my great sadness was that my son had shut me out of his life. I wrote to him often and told him how much I loved and missed him but to no avail. He never answered my letters except to tell me that it was all about loyalty to Jehovah. I really tried to accept it and go on with my life as I had found happiness with a very special man, but the loss of my son felt like a bereavement that I couln't get over because he was still alive. I had counselling to try and help and would feel better for a while, but it didn't last. If I had known that JWD existed then it would of made a lot of difference because I didn't know anyone who felt as I did.

To cut a long story short I eventually went back and was reinstated and it wasn't easy. In fact it was a very humiliating experience to go through but at the time I didn't know all the things that I do now about the JW's so still thought of them as being God's Organisation

Now I have left the borg, although not da'd officially yet and have told my son and family the reasons why. What will be will be.

Maddie

Finally-Free

I can't say I've really been shunned. Shortly after I DA'd I went to visit my mom in a nursing home. There was a sister who was coming in just as I was leaving. I smiled at her and said "hello" and she completely ignored me. I didn't mind, as this particular hag was a complete bitch to me and my ex from day one, even when we pioneered™. I only said "hello" to her because I knew it would annoy her.

When my mom died several JWs from her hall came to the funeral home. They knew I was an "apostate" and initially didn't know what to do when I greeted them. I started with a little small talk, and they soon noticed I wasn't going to attack them or their beliefs. They became more relaxed and soon we were getting along quite well. I wanted to make a point - that "apostates" are not rabid and foaming at the mouth like the society would like their members to believe.

W

steve2

I was in my twenties when I was first shunned. It felt like the very worst experience I could ever go through. I am now in my mid-fifties and looking back I realise that the total rejection I experienced - and continue to experience - forced me to grow up and start taking responsibility for how I reacted to this unchangeable reality. I can now truly say that I have learned so much from this extremely aversive experience.

ferret

I have been out now for almost 28 years. (1980) I have been and still am shunned by my three daughters who are still hanging on even though they are not that active. I have two siblings that do the same, (younger brother and older sister) My older sister was in the restaurant where my son and I were eating last week. I totally shunned them, my son thought that was funny. I do however miss my daughters and hope someday they cut the strings from the borg. But I never give up hope.

Woody

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