Please Share Your Experiences of Jehovah's Witnesses Shunning You (page 3)

flipper

SONNY 60 - Welcome to the board friend ! Thanks for your kind words too ! Sorry you have gone through shunning as well. I too believe God one day , or Karma will make things right for many of us who have been shunned. Hang in there friend.

4 MY LOVE- I hope you and your husband one day stop being shunned by others as well. I know it must be a challenge for you , being married to an inactive witness, but hang in there , keep your chin up , and don't ever let the shunning witnesses make you feel bad about yourselves. As you know - they try to do that constantly ! Hang in, say Hi to hubby for us ! If you can

flipper

I noticed a few people have been posting their shunning experiences on the board so I just wanted to bump this up for those who want to vent about being shunned by the witnesses. Peace out all, Mr. Flipper

BabaYaga

It was the day my beloved Father died.

I was staying with my sister, and the doorbell rang (there were lots of JWs coming through to pay condolences.) I opened the door and a couple I knew very, very well was there. She walked inside, did not LOOK at me... did not ACKNOWLEDGE me in any way, not even to thank me for opening the door, and hugged my sister. I stayed right beside her, looking directly at her, making her squirm. Mind you, I HAVE NEVER BEEN DA'D NOR DF'D. She just thought it righteous to treat me like excrement on the day my Dad was taken from me (because of the blood issue, which makes it all the more unbearable.)

She glanced at her husband, he have her a very quick tiny nod, as if HE told her it was okay to acknowledge me, then she uncomfortably turned to me to hug me and said, "poor kid."

I should not be surprised. This is the same family that shunned their own son, and did not stop the car to pick him up when he was walking to the Kingdom Hall in the pouring rain. He later committed suicide.

By their love, you shall know them.

justhuman

This is the same family that shunned their own son, and did not stop the car to pick him up when he was walking to the Kingdom Hall in the pouring rain. He later committed suicide.

By their love, you shall know them.

My goodness Baba Yaga...how can they claim that they have love...how can they treat their ex-members like that, when on the other hand they are claiming that they are persecuted!!! The golden rule of Jesus is gone down the drain. I mean when you belong somewere else and you change faith nothing changes. I recall when I was kid that my uncles that were Christian Orthodox they didn't have any objection to the family gatherings of the presence of my dad who became JW, and also they attend to his JW wedding cermony. Your life still continuous if you are not a JW, but on the contrary if you are a JW and leave your life turns into hell.

I was preparing my self for 6 years for this situation, but still I find it very hard to accept it. But there is no chance to go back there. They treated us unkind and unhuman. While we still love them, they hate us. I can see their look in their eyes. What is our crime? We just can have faith anymore to the idolatry of the WT Organization. As for my self I found Jesus in the oldest Christian Church the Orthodoxy. It is around for 2000 years, with apostolic succession, alive Saints that can perform miracles. a wealth of spiritual writtings regarding Christian Faith, from the early Church Fathers that gave the Bible Cannon, Churches that they are dating hundreds of years old, places that Apostles walked and lived, the gift of communion of the blood and body of Jesus Christ. This is my crime...I have folllow Jesus, and not a man made Organization that appeared just before 150 years ago, and really don't have a clue what Christianity is all about...

I know the feeling Flipper, it so unloving and painful to be treated like that from your own family

flipper

MADDIE - I know your experiences with your son have been very similar to what I have gone through with my 2 daughters. I definitely know how you feel , as I was once DFed for 4 years . I was reinstated in 2002, then I quit going latter part of 2003 for good. I hope things work out for you and your son in time ; my daughters still won't talk with me even after 7 months still. I've gotta keep trying though.

FINALLY FREE- That was a good way to handle these witnesses Finally Free ! You really gave them something to think about in regards to re- evaluating how " apostates " really act and behave. It is weird though how all witnesses think we are " rabid and foam at the mouth " ! LOL!

STEVE 2- Wow! That was a long time ago you experienced that ! You can be proud of yourself that you have taken responsibility and learned from the experience though !

FERRET- 28 years ! Wow. That is a long time friend .I have empathy for you as my 2 daughters 21 and 19 treat me the same way . It's good you never give up hope. I feel the same way with my daughters - I have to keep trying to get them out.

BABA YAGA- Good Gawd in heaven ! These people who treated you this way ARE absolute demons ! Totally mean spirited and " cult mind controlled " , to treat you in an inhumane manner as that after your father died ! Anybody who would let their own son walk in the rain to the meeting and not give them a ride to the Kingdom Hall - has some screws loose upstairs ! I'm sorry you received that treatment.

JUST HUMAN- I know how you feel. Even though we try to emotionally prepare ourselves for the shunning - it is still not normal, natural or a humane thing to experience. That's what makes it so hard ! You are right, we treat them with love , and they treat us badly . I refuse to stoop to their level though . I'm going to keep trying to reach my daughters and get them out ! Peace friend, Peace out, Mr. Flipper

LouBelle

Shunning - I knew I was going to be shunned severely, as I made a stand against the beliefs of the witnesses once I had been enlightend, I tried preparing myself for it.

My grandmother of 75 has shunned me now for 3 years, in doing so has also shunned my little brother, plus her daughter - this is so sad as we love her dearly and she is getting on in years and it breaks my heart to know she is pretty along...

My Aunt, Uncle, 2 cousins shun me - I have only ever spoken once to my aunt and uncle, they came to the hospital as I was very ill and thought I was going to die.

All my friends shun me - this was very hard, as I only had JW friends - I had no one else. I felt very alone, tempted at times to go back and feel accepted.

But then I rememberd who I was and what I stood for - I rememberd the lies they told me. My belief in my creator, my belief in me, making new friends, becomming closer to my family members that aren't witnesses and being able to come here and vent if need be has kept me whole, has kept me okay - to the point where it doesn't bother me. I was once like them, I once judged like them, they are blind and do not know what they do - I no longer judge, I just pray that one day their eyes will open and if not in this life then the next.

steve2

I have been enriched by reading about others' experiences of being shunned. If any message comes from this, it is twofold: Being shunned is an undeniably painful experience that reaches over the decades and, at the same time, often leads the individual to develop abilities and skills so that he or she can onw relate to others in a more loving, understanding and humane way.

takethat

(((((LouBelle)))))

I am shunned every day. There is a group of witness mums at my son's primary school that I see every morning. Initially I started to say hi to them as I had done every morning. They shuffle past me looking at their shoes. One sister has even shouted in the school at me because I said hello to her. It hurt - it hurt so much that I ended up on anti-depressants and sleeping pills just to be able to cope with "running the gauntlet" up the school drive every day.

Now I no longer bother saying hello. They have shown themselves for who they really are and I'll not waste my breath on the bitches. The funny thing is, I am very well known and well liked by all the teachers.. 3 of my 4 boys have already gone through that school.

When they saw how I was being treated, they were disgusted and won't personally have anything to do with witnesses.

THe same thing happened at my place of work. I barista for a well known coffee shop and sisters would often come in for their coffee after field service. They treated me as if I was something nasty they'd stepped in. Of course all my workmates saw this and were just as disgusted with them as the teachers were. Several of them said when the witnesses next call at their homes, they're gonna tell them to get stuffed.

So at least their behaviour has given a VERY bad witness to many people.

flipper

LOUBELLE- I'm so sorry you and your brother and mother are being treated this way by your grandmother and other witness relatives ! I've been there ; am still going through being shunned too. But like you say - they are blind , they do not know what they are doing . " Cult mind control" at it's worst. Hang in there !

STEVE 2 - I'm glad these experiences are enriching you my friend. It does help when we see others that have experienced similar trials as us - and how they get through them.

TAKE THAT- I'm disgusted that those witness women treated you in that manner ! They do give an even worse view of the Jehovah's Witnesses than they already have by the way they acted ! At least it will help people see how they really act though ! Like you said- your fellow work mates saw it and were disgusted as well . So this will help people to not listen to them when they come to their door ! Take care my friend and keep your chin up ! Many of us are going through this . Hang in there ! Peace out, Mr. Flipper

truthsetsonefree

Oh my, I was just about to start a thread about this. I actually need to read others stories. It still hurts losing all of my friends. Further I am still confused as to whether I should "let them be" when I see them or take the initiative in greeting them. I know that would hurt me more but if its the right thing to do then so be it. Please keep commenting on this one.

Isaac

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