Please Share Your Experiences of Jehovah's Witnesses Shunning You (page 4)

flipper

TRUTHSETSONE FREE- Isaac- hello friend ! Nice to hear from you ! I have come to feel after being out 4 years myself - that if I see one of them in a store or something I will act natural, be nice, cordial, as I'm not going to observe their " dissing " of me. I don't believe init ; and I'm not going to lower myself to their same boorish behavior ! I'll PM you before I go to sleep bud! Lost your number, I'll PM you mine ! Hang in there friend ! I've been doing some reading- got lots to talk about ! Peace out Isaac, Mr. Flipper

LouBelle

You know FLIPPER it doesn't hurt anymore - I've gone beyond the pain - I still love them all and I feel for them - I will one day go visit my granmother and let her know that no matter what I love her and am here for her.

TAKETHAT - amazing how they react hey - if anything we should be feeling the need to look at our shoes and shuffle along - perhaps it just shows who is really in the wrong and who isn't.

BurnTheShips

I haven't been shunned yet. I have gotten a couple of strange glances at stores. I usually go up with a warm disarming hello.

Burn

coffee_black

One sister saw me in a store..stopped dead in her tracks, turned and ran out of the store. That was a long long time ago.... I haven't had too many experiences with shunning.

At my son's wedding, my x pretended I didn't exist. It was kind of comical..... The ceremony was on the beach at dawn..just immediate family and very close friends...about a dozen people.... (very informal...the reception was 2 weeks later) and we went out to breakfast afterwards. My x was at the other end of the table...I picked up the tab for the table...he got all flustered... After all he wasn't even supposed to be eating with an apostate! And the apostate even bought him breakfast!

A few years after I DAed, I wrote a letter to my x sil.... I wanted to let her know that her neice and nephew (who were never baptized) were doing well. There had been no contact at all.... The letter was a few pages long, just catching her up with what they were doing...not saying anything about religion. She wrote back and said that she read the first page and that was all she would read, and that I should understand why she wouldn't read the rest. This is my children's only aunt...they are her only neice and nephew. Sad.

Coffee

prophecor

While employed as an aide in a mental health group home, I was to bring one of the residents to the ER of the hospital. They were going thru some difficult times, and required overnight observation. There was a sister at the desk who needed to give instructions as to how to reach the ER as it had been recently renovated.

She would have preferred to give me the directions to entryway into Hell, rather than the proper instructions to the ER. It was blatant that she despised having to even talk to me. It wasn't like I was trying to be overtly-friendly, I was just another human who required assistance. It was obvious that she was unwilling to seperate the issues of the Kingdom Hall from either of our employments. You are filth regardless of the fact that you are another human being, in need.

Gordy

After a breakdown and diagnosed as having acute clinical depression 1996. I was made to leave family home because of being a "spiritual danger" to the family. The shock of this and the lack of love and support from any JW made me begin to question. Eventually after lots of reserach I stop attending meetings in August 1999. Then finally disassociated in September 2001.

From then 2001 my JW wife and two JW daughters have not spoken or had contact with me.

Well, not entirely correct, my eldest son (also DA'd) was rushed into hospital with appendicitis about 2 years ago, I went with his non-JW wife to hospital. While he was in surgery we went into waiting room. My wife was there. All she said was "Hello" then just talked to my sons wife, I ceased to exist. Next day when we visited my son. His wife and I were in cafe when my wife turned up. She sat down with her back to me and just talked to sons wife. Since then there has been no contact.

Oh Must sau also while he was in hospital and the above when my wife was visiting the next day. There was about 3-4 people from the church he and I attend came as well. They even prayed atthe bedside for his recovery. I often wonder what my wife made of that.

My two JW daughters I have not spoken to or had contact since 2001 with me. They are now 29 & 23. Though funnily I was sitting in a pub last month. I just happened to look up and there was the 29 yr old passing. She looked at me and just raised her eyebrows. I went to see were she was sitting. She was with my other daughter and a group of others, a couple who I recognised as JW's.

So in just over 6 years that is all the contact I have had wife wife and daughters.

Of course there have been occassions when JWs have spotted me walking along road and crossed over to avoid passing me.

Or if they can't, they suddenly seem to get a call on their mobile phones.

I usually give them a wave, just to annoy them

minimus

I very seldom see Witnesses but I have when I've been at my mom's house. They usually are quite pleasant with me and tell me they really really "miss" me.

jambon1

I am not d/f'd. However some of the local 'brothers' have decided to play games with me. Not that I willingly participate, but you catch my drift. One local elder decides to shun me some days & talk to me others. Some other 'friends' like to drive past me in their cars without waving nowadays, even though they see me coming. On the other hand, a lot of JW's still like me & talk to me openly. It's strange. I find it funny how JW's don't really have 'instruction' on how to treat 'non-returning inactive people'. Thinking for themselves sure throws up a range of different reactions.

BabaYaga

Jambon... I love your term "'non-returning inactive people'."

That's a perfect phrase, that pretty much tells it the way it is. And yes, it confuses the hell out of them. Should they encourage? Shun? Run away? Call on us in field service? Burn us at the stake?

jambon1

BabaYaga - Yes, as I was typing my current 'JW status', I thought that I may have coined a new ex-JW term. LOL!

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