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LouBelle

Right - so I've met this guy through a friend - he's a little older than me (38, recently divorced, though separated for 2.5 years and has a little 4 year old daughter) He is quite a nice guy, we've been going out, having dinners and just getting to know each other - right now I'm quite happy being friends.

The thing is this guy uses so much sexual inuendo from fruit to head, to pips, you name it........ I mean I don't mind at all and have a good laugh, but what I'm trying to understand is what is he ""asking"" ""sussing out"" of me - if anything?

Thing is I'm good with straight up and ask if you want to move into a sexual relationship. Don't beat around the bush, or play games (well some games are fun when you're in a sexual relationship) So guys can be hard to read......

Or perhaps I'm reading too much into it - I'm just not used to dealing with older men (I date guys around my age or younger)

OnTheWayOut

Men are just as unknowing of what to do or say as women are. His inuendos are undoubtedly
an attempt at humor, most likely a measuring tool to see how you respond.

If nothing else is a problem with what he says except it ain't "to the point" try to go to the point
for him. Let him know what YOU are ready for. End his fumbling uneasiness. You can even
let him know, but still make him say it. When he makes an inuendo, say "Would you like that?"
Make him answer, but in a nice way. "C'mon, we can't ever go any further unless you say what
you expect."

Or just leave it alone and let him continue to throw hints. He will have to raise the bar to more
than inuendo. The problem with that is that he may not be up to raising the bar, so he will just
break up. You at least have to play the inuendo game back at him so he has hope for more.

Other men on the forum can help you more, perhaps.

willdabeerman

On the way out said it right. He is throwing the line out to see if you will bite. If you do not have any issue with it, then bite it and then see where it gos. Also just like OTWA (sory im lazy this morning) said he is probably just as, if not more so, nervous and it is his attempt at humour to lighten things up whilst also prodding (no pun intended) for your reaction.

prophecor

Sounds like he has the bluntness of a sack of hammers

minimus

LouBelle, why not just make it easier on him and ask him if he''s interested in sex and then tell him your feeling either for or against?

stillajwexelder

Any guy who is dating a girl (being friends what ever you want to call it) has sex on his mind. TRUST ME

Witness 007

I'am very shy it would take me months to pop such a question...."would you like to have Ssssssushi, some sushi... we could have sssssour krout!! Would you like to have Sssssausage Oh no I don't mean..I was just....no punn intended...."

RAYZORBLADE

Innuendo.

It's so shallow.

Talk about beating around the bush: good lord! sounds like someone who's a gardener wants to prune, sheer and perhaps put a stake inside his desired tree or SA shrub.

You seem pretty shrewd.

Not every hotdog is a sausage: nor every clam an oyster.

Time to put some horseradish on this one, see if he's as strong as his pheromones seem to indicate.

If not, like an annoying insect: swat his ass but good.

JK666

Men hate rejection, therefore hinting with sexual innuendos is a safe way to elicit a response. If the comment is rejected, he does not lose face. If it is a neutral response, he will try again later after you get to know each other better. If it is affirmative, he will probably get up the nerve to speak his mind. In sales, these would be referred to as "trial closes."

JK

JK666

Then again, what do I know? I had a guy I worked with that claimed a 15% success rate with the line: "Wanna f**k?"

Play it by ear, LouBelle. I don't know what I am talking about.

JK

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