COGNAC- My son does yoga and meditation regularly now. He said meditation can assist you with unblocking memories. My son is studying to be a hypnotist perhaps - he is going to a class on it. ( Can you imagine an ex-witness being a hypnotist ? Pretty funny ! ) Sometimes when unpleasant things happen in our childhood - people have been known to block out sections of unpleasant memories of time. Did anything happen to you negatively in your childhood ? If you had a happy childhood - perhaps you did inherit a bit of your grandmother's memory loss. I hope your meditation and hypnosis helps you - my son swears by it ! Peace out, Mr. Flipper
Your Pretend Shrink is Back - Share Your Problems - I'll Help if I Can
by flipper 59 Replies latest jw friends
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flipper
WILDABEERMAN- Personally , I swear by Moosehead Beer. I love Canadian beer. Moosehead has such a smooth taste to it , goes down nicely, and gives a nice buzz after just 2 beers ! I highly recommend Moosehead ! Peace out, Mr. Flipper
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GoddessRachel
OK, Pretend Shrink Flipper, which problem should I inundate you with...?
How about: my boyfriend is so busy with his work he doesn't have time for me anymore and it makes me resent him and our relationship? I am afraid I'm trying too hard to please him and be a part of his life, like stopping in to see him at work, and bringing him food (we live together but I only see him to sleep if I don't stop by and see him at work). I wish I had more of my own life, but I don't, because I was too busy nurturing - or trying to nurture - our relationship, and be supportive to his goals. We haven't had sex in nearly two weeks! And that is really hard for me. What is wrong with us? How do I not be so clingy but still show I'm supportive? (I feel like I'm being clingy, but if I don't stop in and see him at work, he'll say how he wishes I would stop by and see him. So it's hard to have my own life when I'm either at my job or trying to make time to hang out at his work.) And man, I just want some nookie. He says he is too exhausted from work to have sex right now, but I think he's damaging our bond by refusing sex! Plus I know he still looks at internet porn, which I find offensive when he won't even give me any. Is our relationship on the rocks?
If that one is too hard, how about this: I love to talk to my mother. But I have to endure JW lectures every time I talk to her. I don't want to completely cut her off, so I try to not be confrontational and avoid any answers to her questions that might be too upsetting. Is this lying to my mother? I try to also not give her false hope, so when she says things about me being a Witness again, I tell her I don't think that is going to happen. I know it hurts her when I say that, but I think it would hurt her more to allow her to believe it's a possibility. I then say things like "there is hope that our family will be reunited again" which in her mind means I might be a JW again, but what I mean is that we can still learn how to love each other unconditionally. So I feel like I'm giving her a more realistic hope. What do you think about this? Do you think I'm deceiving my mother? Am I being selfish to talk to her, knowing I'm not coming back to "the truth"?
Thanks for listening,
Rachel
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cognac
COGNAC- My son does yoga and meditation regularly now. He said meditation can assist you with unblocking memories. My son is studying to be a hypnotist perhaps - he is going to a class on it. ( Can you imagine an ex-witness being a hypnotist ? Pretty funny ! ) Sometimes when unpleasant things happen in our childhood - people have been known to block out sections of unpleasant memories of time. Did anything happen to you negatively in your childhood ? If you had a happy childhood - perhaps you did inherit a bit of your grandmother's memory loss. I hope your meditation and hypnosis helps you - my son swears by it ! Peace out, Mr. Flipper
lol - that's funny your son is doing that... I'm probably not unblocking something horrible. I mean, yeah, my dad was abusive but I'm sure not more then most dads back then... Those were different times and my brothers and sisters don't have anything like this... I always felt a special connection with my grandmother... I always wanted to be like her in a way. Maybe I inherited it or maybe I just wanted to be like her so I did. I don't have any clue. But, I'm excited, scared and nervous to explore it. I mean, I've known this about myself for a few years now, but I've never done anything about it because I never thought it should have any sort of priority... Now, I can't wait to figure it all out...
I remember when I first started figuring out something was wrong... My first husband was awful, and I would have to write down why I was mad at him or I wouldn't be able to remember even a week later... I mean, I don't totally forget everything, just bits and pieces... It's so weird to me...
The funny thing is that being here, and I start saying something. Then, I get a question asked of me, then I will remember something that I couldn't before... It just comes back... Maybe that doesn't happen all the time but it's awesome when I do remember something... I'm just like, oh, well, this is what happened or why it happened... It's so exciting cause I can start to put things together... It's a bit of relief...
Anyways, I hope this hypnotism thing works... That would be really cool...
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hillbilly
flip...buddy I am conflicted. can you help me? Seems I may be an angry white man. I just started dealing with my feminine side lately... and got over the fact that I may be a lesbian trapped in a male body...
signed ...confused
~Hill
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FlyingHighNow
My daughter, Julian's mom, told him two nights ago that she wants him to come back to live with her this summer. He was so unraveled by his mixed feelings that he could not sleep for two nights in a row. He missed his field trip to the symphony this morning because he could not wake up. He's very sad. He wishes he could have his mother and me. But his mother lives in Rhode Island and she won't budge about coming out here. I am trying not to get too upset with this. I have had Julian now for nearly two years. I've raised him off and on his whole life.
I am starting a new call center job with Triple A, the autoclub. I don't want this all to upset me so much that I can't train properly and end up losing the job. We have two exams I have to pass after the first two weeks. Otherwise, it's curtains for me. Advice on how to help a nearly twelve year old boy find hope out of his melancholy and for me not to let this interfere with my new job and progress?
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Mr. Majestic
Hi Flipper,
My question is what to do when you look into every conceivable idea, theory, belief, faith, philosophy, and find that behind every one of them there are huge holes that will in one way or another disprove its truth?
Hope you are well.
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hillbilly
FHN... I have a step son whos bio-donor plays mind games with all the time...not the same situation as yours..but it's hard to watch a little kid get spin doctored like that.
Stay the course.
Hill
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FlyingHighNow
Hill, he has moved so much and seen so much loss and sadness. He cried this evening about losing his little brother last June. I don't know what Carrie is thinking. He is a moody, adolescent now. She'll actually have to get up in the mornings and make sure he does his homework, etc. He mouths off sometimes. He bucks authority a little bit here and there. What upsets me the most is that she told him before she told me. I would have told her not to say anything until it was set in concrete. Now he has three months to worry and anticipate this.
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FlyingHighNow
My question is what to do when you look into every conceivable idea, theory, belief, faith, philosophy, and find that behind every one of them there are huge holes that will in one way or another disprove its truth?
I have come to the contented conclusion that we humans aren't meant to know it all while we are here. And it's okay if we don't know it all. As a matter of fact, it makes the world a bigger, more mysterious and interesting place, when we don't have all the answers.
Go with kindness and love and you can't go wrong. The one truth I do believe is that God is indeed love. It's man who has #$%^%$ this place up.