Have you gained more than lost? (page 3)

loosie

I gained a husband by being in and we gained our freedom together. Freedom is priceless. I feel I've gained more than I've lost.

VoidEater

Freedom from control.

Fredom from abuse.

Freedom from guilt.

Freedom from apathy - "nothing can get better until Jehovah's kingdom comes".

Gained empathy and sympathy - I can care about those around me.

Gained unconditional love from others - without having to mark time, think as they do, prove my worth.

Gained a life I can call my own.

Gained freedom.

compound complex

Thank you, friends, for the enlightening thoughts:

StAnn:

So no joy is ever completely joyful; there's always an accompanying sadness because I can't share my happiness with all of those I love.

You're correct regarding an underlying sadness that pervades our current, overall sense of happiness in newfound freedom. My family followed me in 40 years ago so that also includes a lot of offspring who are "born in the Truth."

Momz:

Sorry about yer mum ... that's a tough one.

Renee:

Jesus Christ - never truly the part of the JW's life - and breaking the chain for your future generations is genuine gain. My, what a lot of JW family! You are a survivor!

loosie:

The freedom you and your mate have gained together is, indeed, priceless! Good for you.

With gratitude,

CoCo

compound complex

Thank you, Void Eater:

Your enumerating the gains and freedoms acquired is helpful. It's good to see yours and the others' comments put down in ink (something to keep in mind and ponder when we're feeling sad over our losses).

It happens ...

Gratefully,

CoCo

cluless

Hi Compound and Complex.

In terms of POWER If I had stayed in and progressed I imagine I would be an Elder now.

As it ended I was a sincere beliver helping the congregation and beliving I was authorised by Jehovahs holy- spirit to fullfill this privalige. When I realised this was an ilusion well I counted my losses and quit.

Paid a high price emotionally and now I dont feal I have any answers. That includes an answer to your question.

BFD

I've gained a lot but, I have to say I've lost more because I lost my mom to the cult.

BFD

tall penguin

Not yet, but I'm workin on it.

tall penguin

compound complex

Clueless:

Paid a high price emotionally and now I dont feal I have any answers. That includes an answer to your question.

I hope you recover from this experience of all experiences and find the answers you seek. I don'r need an answer to my question today; tomorrow will do .

BFD:

So sorry about your losing your mother. Here on JWD you can talk to others who have lost one or the other, or both, of their parents to the Org and draw some comfort. I wish that for you.

Tall Penguin:

Please keep working on it - best wishes!

Thanks, you all!

CoCo

flipper

COCO- Hello friend, how are you ? I truly have gained more than I've lost. Freedom from stress caused by the relentless expectations of a tapeworm organization wanting to leech every ounce of energy from our spiritual bowels ! That being said as you and Finally Free said, it doesn't come without cost. Although my parents get along great with me and my older fading son- I am still trying to work on my witness daughters from a kindly , natural affection type of view to get them to talk with me. Haven't talked in 9 months , but I keep trying to send nice cards and tell them I love them . Hopefully that will gradually change.

But. I have a wonderful life, a lovely wife , and am experiencing much peace of mind , not being controlled anymore ! Hope you are well too ! Peace out, Mr. Flipper

SPAZnik

I find myself feeling like I've gained more than I've lost in this life overall.

(Not sure how to limit myself to quantifying just the JW experience anymore)

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