Have you gained more than lost? (page 4)

NanaR

Hi CoCo:

I've gained (since leaving the JWs) MUCH more than I've lost.

On the lost side, I have cousins with whom I've lost contact. My only sister emails me RARELY and only when she needs to discuss "family business". People who have known me all my life get a "deer in the headlights" look on their faces and walk faster when I say hello in WalMart (yes, I always say hello...).

On the plus side, I have gained amazing friends (IRL) who mean the world to me. I have a new-found faith (Catholicism) and a wonderful prayer life (that I didn't even know existed before). I am planning to be baptized in the Catholic faith -- hopefully on March 22 (take that, Brooklyn!). I even still have contact with some active JWs (quietly) who know all about my apostate tendencies and don't care. I hope to be a good influence on them!

I have met lots of great people online (such as yourself, CoCo). I have corresponded with some of the researchers on this board (Atlantis and Cabasillas rock!).

I know now that I can be with Jesus forever when I die!

Yup, much more in the "gained" column than the lost column. I could go on, but you get the picture...

Pax (Yeah, peace of mind, that's another BIG gain! As a JW, I had anxiety attacks...),

Ruth

Carmel

Well, let me see! Lost a dysfuntional family,,,not really a loss, lost membership in a magazine sales and publishing company, mmmm not really a loss, lost contact with all of the above, again no loss.

Gained everything!

Gosh, how do I weigh this.....?

carmel

doofdaddy

That's a difficult way to gauge my present life.

Once I discovered the truth about the lies of the jw organisation, there was no cost involved. How could I continue to support a lie? There is no cost in searchig for truth.

Odrade

I'm far in the black on that transaction. Sure there were some losses, but the gains are so much greater, I don't regret finding out the truth about the JWs.

Hermano

I have absolutely have gained more than I lost.

My only regret is I didn't get out sooner.

Would definitely recommend getting out to a friend.

dogisgod

I think I have but it's been hard. Being raised in that thought process and then leaving sets you up for being in a reality you are not equipped for. Have made some dumb choices on people I've let into my life. When you are in the borg it is hard to have your own boundries because they have always been set for you. I've done many things that are so cool that I could not have done inside the borg. For many years I still believed it was the "truth" which is more toxic than poison. Still...I'd rather be "here" than "there".

I am eternally grateful for the people that post on this site...from all over the world no less. How great is that?!?!

compound complex

Thank you for all the wonderful responses - such a nice read upon my return home from work. I want to make specific reference to many of your comments but do not know how to copy and paste more than one item at a time. Below is a major point made by dogisgod:

I am eternally grateful for the people that post on this site...from all over the world no less. How great is that?!?!

Ditto!

I shall return,

CoCo

compound complex

I even still have contact with some active JWs (quietly) who know all about my apostate tendencies and don't care. I hope to be a good influence on them!

Nana:

Likewise! Some JWs DON'T care. When I first became aware that I was an "a" (still cannot quite admit it and spell out the entire word), I thought I was obligated to turn myself in to the theocratic authorities to be scourged.

I know better now ... so much better....

Thank you!

CoCo

compound complex

I'm far in the black on that transaction. Sure there were some losses, but the gains are so much greater, I don't regret finding out the truth about the JWs. Odrade: Learning the truth - however painful the consequences - is better than continuing to live a lie. As JWs, we were taught about righteousness, truthfulness and integrity. Too bad the WT version of the above was not of the fire-resistant variety. Genuine virtue resists all corrosive and inflammatory influence ... Thank you. CoCo

compound complex

I am still trying to work on my witness daughters from a kindly , natural affection type of view to get them to talk with me. Haven't talked in 9 months , but I keep trying to send nice cards and tell them I love them . Hopefully that will gradually change.

Flipper:

Love - unconditional love - never fails. Your putting the ball in their court, as it were, demonstrates that you are neither an uncaring nor unreasonable father. As a result, you are at peace and continue to spread love and good cheer to all. Some respond, some do not. That includes family as well as those outside the family circle.

Thank you for your contribution.

CoCo

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