Those of you who have been around here for awhile now about this.......but while talking to hubby today another detail popped in my head. My JW adolescence was troubled. I stayed in trouble. I want to tell you guys about my JC when I was 15 and the subsequent talk that was given in front of God and everybody during the Ministry School. Well, I had sex with a boy. Not just any boy. He was a boy I admired, trusted, loved. Mom always tossed my room to find out what I was doing. She found a love note from said boy. Ran straight to the elders. Judicial Committe was quickly formed. Soooooo, I have the priviledge of telling 3 50-60 year old men the DETAILS of me losing my virginity. (This almost made my hubby throw up when I told him). It was decided that I was repentant (scared shitless is more like it). Sooo, I get publicly reproved and the talk that they gave from the Podium just before they announced that I wasn't a virgin anymore...........the elder used this illustration. You may break a vase and you can glue it back together......but the cracks are still visible. WTF? I was damaged goods. (And I wasn't even good at it yet). One elder even told me a good theocratic brother would probably never marry me now. You know elders always check out the purity of their potential daughters-in-law. I was broken, damaged, and I was 15 years old.
Broken vases and other ways we are made to feel damaged
by dinah 35 Replies latest jw friends
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crazyblondeb
I stayed in trouble most of my youth, too.
Once talk I remember after I was labeled bad assiocation, was about how if
you were to stumble someone, you might as well have a millstone tied to your neck, and thrown in the
river. Boy, that one made me feel good.
I can remember having that same talk......And we wonder why we are all dysfunctional and crazy.
I luvs ya dinah!!
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loosie
WOW. Funny how girls are so bad in the jw world. I was dating an elders son for 3 yrs from the time I was 14 to 17. I never had sex with him. But he always asked me to. I always said no. So finally he said ok I won't ask you anymore. I shouldn't have asked you, it was worng to ask you.
So a few months later I thought I would see if he really meant it. And during a hot make out session I asked him to have sex. He said no to me.
But aparantly dumbass felt bad about it and told the elders that I had asked him to. ( I never told the eldersall the times he asked me)
You know what the elder said to my mom? Well you daughter isn't good association. A good girl wouldn't test a spritual young man like that. A few months later he was DF'd for having sex with some 13 yr old in a motel room.
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rebel8
they announced that I wasn't a virgin anymore
They...ummm......uh.......WHAT?!!!
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dinah
Not in so many words, Rebel.......but it was obvious. A talk about fornication and broken vases......then they annouce Dinah has been publicly reproved by a Judicial Committee.
They should have just gave me a "slut" t-shirt
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IP_SEC
I got no problems with "sluts"
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jamiebowers
What happened to you was wrong on so many levels that I don't know where to start. But I'm curious as to whether the boy was jw, and if he was, what happened to him?
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dinah
He wasn't a JW. But even if he had been an elder's son I still would be the villain.
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free2think
He wasn't a JW. But even if he had been an elder's son I still would be the villain.
Of course. Im sorry you had to experience that Dinah. It makes me so angry when they pull crap like that, especially on young people.
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