For Valentine's Day I made my wife cry (page 5)

oompa

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Good for you Jimmy... I'm proud of you...

BizzyBee

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Perhaps something along this line....?

Well, Jimmy, sounds like things went pretty well. As rebel8 said, she didn't sound too distraught. Of course, there will be many more difficult discussions once she absorbs it all and figures out how she really feels about it.

But in any case, congrats and good luck.

Nellie

Jimmy - I'm offering my thoughts although I don't know your complete story or background.

First, remember that your wife's relationship with the organization is her's alone and getting her to see things from your point of view will be a long and slow process. Don't even try it for now. She's got a lot to swallow just coming to terms with the idea that you don't want it anymore.

And second (and probably even more frightening) right now she's worried that if you don't want Jehovah, that means that you don't want her either. In her Witness-indoctrinated mind, leaving the organization means becoming a worldly-party-womanizer! Trust me, whether she says it or not, that's what she's thinking! You MUST reassure her that your problem is with the org and not her. Once she calms down from that and begins to trust that you still want HER, then and only then will she be able to begin to think about what you said to her about your questions.

You can successfully leave the organization and keep your marriage together. It isn't easy, but it is possible. I wish you all the best.

out4good3

It appears that you took the time to dissolve the glue before rippint the bandage off as I had to do with my wife last month. Great Job!!!!

It'll take her awhile to digest the change you've given her. Give her time. In the meantime, shower her with love and reassurance that your'e not going to become a worldly satan worshipping sex crazed lunatic and be ready to tell the elders and any others who ask that the issues are you and her business alone and will not be discussed.

Bubblie

Going to her pioneer sister may get her some unwanted advice. If you keep going to the meetings he will see how faithful you are and want to come back to the meetings. That is what the mind controlled told me. I tried keeping it up but it was so hard going without my ex I couldn't keep interested in something he felt totally wrong. I had always respected his opinions about things. Be strong and committed to hanging on to the real truth about the wt. I hope it works out for you well for you and your family.

Kit.

independent_tre

I agree with JWdaughter in that this thing will come in waves, so even though she may be okay now, it may not be so peachy on meeting night. Nellie's advice seems on point. PasswordP'd stated:

You're exactly right. I know for a fact (personal experience) that JWs would rather hear of a man cheating on his wife than hear that a man has doubts in the transient teachings of a New York-based publishing corporation. They'd rather you were blatantly working against black and white Biblical principles (committing adultery) than questioning the latest interpretation of the generation.*

That is so humorous and sad at the same time. It's amazing that people, including myself, at one time gave this group of men power over their lives and power to destroy families.

All in all, I think you're on the right track and I hope things work out for the best.

MissingLink

I feel for you man. I remember that conversation with my wife.

Don't push her. Ask quesions to make her think for herself.

New light for you

Ugh. Makes me live thru it all again.

My husband always sucked in the truth, but him being so terrified to tell me, and telling me ... that conversation that he didn't believe it anymore.. i'll never forget.

I turned EXTREMELY self-righteous (suprise suprise) and in my "Defence" of the truth started investigating Russell on Wikipedia... then, in a few weeks, months.. i was down too.

You never know how it will turn out. I love that you are wanting to protect your son from the cult. This year now each of my kids (8 and 5) have had their first birthday parties, xmas... and guess what... NOONE was killed at the events!

Good luck. We're all here.

For Valentine's Day I made my wife cry