by JimmyPage 49 Replies latest watchtower beliefs
you've probably had the hardest conversation with your wife that you could ever had
Which is crazy when you think about it. Why should a conversation about rational beliefs be this hard? I wonder if it would have been easier to say I committed adultery or something. Insane!
I wonder if it would have been easier to say I committed adultery or something. Insane!
You're exactly right. I know for a fact (personal experience) that JWs would rather hear of a man cheating on his wife than hear that a man has doubts in the transient teachings of a New York-based publishing corporation. They'd rather you were blatantly working against black and white Biblical principles (committing adultery) than questioning the latest interpretation of the generation.*
Can we collectively and unquestioningly say "cult"?
*I have it on good authority that the elders would much rather deal with a cut and dried case of fornication/adultery than a case of someone saying they don't believe in 1914. At least with fornication/adultery they can turn to a verse in the Bible and present you with your sin. But can they do that with 1914? Of course not. Yes, they can trundle out verses in John's letters about pushing ahead and not staying in the teaching of the Christ. But while marital faithful was a teaching of Christ, the exact date of his return was not (Acts 1:7).
Still, elders are placed in a position to cut a person off, to set a person up for destruction at Armageddon without having concrete scriptural precedent for doing so.
She cried and locked herself in the bathroom for an hour. Later though we went out to a restaurant together for lunch and watched a movie at home.
My suspicion......she got over her feelings about this a really long time ago.
A loved one not believing should be the biggest tragedy in her life if she's a good jw, worse than someone dying [no resurrection]. Imagine:
The hospital called to say her best friend suddenly died at age 30. She cried and locked herself in the bathroom for an hour. Then we went out to dinner and a movie.
Good point, rebel8. You're probably right about that.
That's a good point, rebel8, it may show she's got more doubts re. the Org than you're giving her credit for, Jimmy.
I'm sorry for the whole mess. You said, " I wonder if it would have been easier to say I committed adultery or something. Insane!"-- When my husband first joined up you have no idea how many people asked me if it wouldn't have been easier if he had had an affair instead. sad isn't it?
Yes, stand firm, brother!
i think the fact that you were a professional slacker is really in your favor....did she ask you a bunch of spiritual questions back then??.......did she probe as to why you were out or how much faith you had?..............i had never been "inactive" in my life so my wife had every right to think we would always be goodie jw's.....i have apologized deeply to her for how i have changed, but she knows my faith in what i know now is as strong or stronger than hers....you do not have to apologize like that..............
i think you saying you hope she would not try to take your child away probably smacked her to the core if she loves you deeply......that comment says soooooooooooo much in just a few words.....it has to instantly make her think of 1. loss and splitting and that it was on your mind so much that this came out of your mouth almost first. 2. lawyers, court, pain, seperation, and ultimately divorce.......she prob knows of other families that whrough were torn apart through ugly divorce
please keep us updated DAILY!!........................oompa
Hey, this is one of those situations that makes you feel all kinds of things at once.
It's scary, but it's important. It makes you feel brave, cowardly, manly, empowered,
unempowered, etc. etc.
I have to say, "Good for you, having this talk." It's tough, but you did it.
Things might get strange, but they will move in the right direction for you eventually.
Keep prying!! Maybe she'll catch on...
