by AK - Jeff 30 Replies latest watchtower beliefs
Been there done something similar to that.
JW's are trained to be rude and obnoxious towards people who decide to not participate in their religion.
In their minds they are showing you love. ha
It is amazing how JW relatives treat non JW relatives.
They are blind.
MIL = Mother In Law
FIL = Father In Law
SIL = Son In Law
DIL = Daughter In Law
It hurts when someone whose known you so very, very long can be so rude when your "track record" towards her is exemplary. I agree with an earlier poster: She's not shunning you - she actually spoke a few words to you. She's snubbing you - which in some ways is harder to bear. But then. she's 84 - so don't expect too much cognitive flexibility on the question of personal conduct. My advice: See the humor in this development:
Millions of husbands all over the world would willingly give a sigh of relief if their mother-in-laws spoke so briefly to them and then exited the picture. Of course, the dilemma your MIL faces is this: If she phones back wanting to talk to your wife, she knows you are likely to answer. This may cause her some anxiety and fretting - hardly helpful emotions at any age - but in the latter years even worse. This may bring a wry smile to your lips as you join the ranks of those whose simple mistake was to have daredv to change your beliefs. What an unfair world this is, from one view, and an absurd one from another view.
SIL = Sister in Law
BIL = Brother in Law
OIL = oompa in Law
BIL, BIL, OIL, whatever the case,
Why would this suprise you? It's the way they roll.
Oompa - I also have SIL who shun me - different subject.
Interestingly, that while my wife was gone, she did run into my SIL who also shuns me [my dead brother's wife], different family.
Wifey was asked when she is 'coming back home' [meaning to the hall]? She answered 'Never', and SIL busied herself with other customers.
Jeff
Sorry to hear this Jeff. Strength to you and yours.
Why would this suprise you?
Never suggested that it surprised me - it hurt quite a bit though, in case you are interested.
Jeff
LMAO...geeze i was not even drinkin!!!
undercover: oompa....you got about the same time to edit...Jeff is the son-in-law, thus the SIL
Sorry to hear Jeff...my MIL doesn't out and out shun me, but it is a strained relationship.
SIL = Sister in Law
BIL = Brother in Law
OIL = oompa in Law
geeze undercover....you could have at least called me.....damm i was off on this one!!!.....too funny for me......and jeff...i still say she sure does not sound very much fun...........oompa
Jeff I am always amazed when I read of things like you are going through with your Mother in law who is a JW.
Mine too was and is a JW and I think she is about 83 now.She asked the Brothers at her KH if it was OK to associate with me and they sent away for a copy of my disassociation letter. After they got it and read it they said she could. Imagine that!..She wasn't supposed to talk about the "Truth" with me though. She did keep on explaining how happy her and her son (My hubby) and her other JW family members were going to be in the "new system" in front of me though.Hubby said she even told him that Jehovah would provide him with a "New wife" in the new systems and he will make him forget me so he wouldn't be sad at losing me..She was evil all the way through in the later years.
Hubby passed away about 6 years ago and I haven't seen her since. She did call my oldest daughter one time but I can't remember what it was about. She wasn't to talkative either , just commenting about her hip operation and how she mostly just sat on her butt all day and watched TV..even tho she was supposed to be going blind 6 years ago..go figure..I guess she was miraculously cured.
Anyway they really know how to get to you as far as causing pain..been there done that. Thankfully now..I am at peace. But I will always miss hubby, JW or not.
Snoozy..who wishes you the best in dealing with your JW family members.
