A New Guy from Chicago with a Story to Tell

by Reborn2002 61 Replies latest jw experiences

  • COMF
    COMF

    This is his first post, and already he has someone arguing semantics with him!

    No, he doesn't. He has someone asking for clarification of statements that don't make sense together. When that becomes a no-no, it's time to give up communicating altogether.

    Quite frankly, I am surprised that you are so quick to judge.

    Here we go with the "judging" bullshit again. Did you even bother to read my posts? Futile as I know it will be, the eternal optimist in me keeps on imagining that by quoting my statements verbatim I'll be able to make you actually understand what I said instead of what you decided I must be saying. Here they are:

    I'm not accusing you of anything. I'm just making note of inconsistencies in your story.

    All I said was that, based on what I had read in your post, it was possible that you fit the "rescuer" profile.

    I didn't state anything dogmatically.

    I pointed out some inconsistencies in your story (which still are there) and made an observation intended to offer help in the event that you found it to be on target. That's all I did.

    Maybe Jason didn't express himself effectively enough. But at least give him a chance to prove himself.

    I AM giving him a chance to prove himself, Prisca! For god's sake, that's why I asked him questions! He posted a story that is full of holes. I asked him about the holes. This IS his opportunity to prove himself, for crying out loud.

    If his story is not legit, it will come out in time. If it is, then you have been pretty harsh on a newbie.

    Good god save us. There is not one single harsh thing in any of my posts in this thread.

    Questioning why the girl would make up a rape story shows lack of insight into the workings of the WTS.

    I didn't question why the girl would make up a rape story. I asked how making up a rape story is supposed to make her look innocent. Study it out, Prisca. Picture the whole thing. Here's what Jason said about it:

    When her mother who is also a JW found out that she had gotten an apt and allowed me to spend the night, even though we never had sex, she went to tell the others, and to make herself look innocent.. the story which came about was that I attempted to rape her.

    Catch that first line: "When her mother found out that she had allowed me to spend the night..." How long after the fact was this? He doesn't say, but the implication is that it was some time later, not in the middle of the night while he was there. He says, "had allowed," not "was allowing". See? It's already over, past.

    Now, Prisca, put yourself in an elder's place. Here it is, some days after this incident, and the story is that he spent the night there, but the reason why is "he tried to rape me." Prisca: what's that got to do with spending the night there? How does that explain him spending the night there?

    Doesn't that raise all kinds of questions in your mind? Like,

    Did the struggle last til morning when he left?
    If not, why didn't you make him leave when the struggle ended?
    Why didn't you call the cops?
    Why didn't you call your mother?
    Why didn't you tell us about it immediately?

    My point, Prisca, is that the girl could not cover her ass for having him spend the night by making up a story about rape. It doesn't explain anything. It doesn't clear up the question as to why he spent the night. It doesn't get her off the hook with a reasonable explanation. The question remains unanswered, "Why was he still there the next morning?"

    She knew it would have been fruitless to try to convince anyone that sex didn't happen.

    On the contrary, he is accused of ATTEMPTED rape. She didn't say sex happened. She said he attempted it unsuccessfully. All the more reason to ask: how does this have anything to do with him having spent the night? How does the fact that he tried to rape her explain him being there the next morning?

    If I was a young brother accused of rape, and asked all sorts of intimate questions by elders,

    Prisca, please go back and read again what I wrote about the questions. Hon, the point is not that the elders wouldn't ask him questions. The point is that THE QUESTIONS HE SAYS THEY ASKED DO NOT MAKE LOGICAL SENSE."

    You're making me want to cry from raw frustration. Good god, woman, please, PLEASE try once to just understand what's really being written, instead of going off on a tangent with your imagination.

    I have not accused Jason of rape. I have not accused him of lying. I have shown that what he said doesn't hold together, and have asked for an explanation. If he can offer one, fine. If he can't...?

    COMF

  • Prisca
    Prisca

    COMF,

    You're really sexy when you get that agitated tone to your posts!

    Seriously, I appreciate your point of view, even if I still think you were a bit strong on Jason. His reply to your earlier post indicated he took it that way too. As for your latest post, I could argue the "he said, you said" type of thing, but I'm not interested. Thank you for explaining yourself, and yes, I can see in some things where you're coming from (shock! horror!)

    Peace man.

  • GatoCat
    GatoCat

    You're really sexy when you get that agitated tone to your posts!

    Does this mean we can kiss and make up?
    How about just plain kiss?

    COMF

    PS GatoCat because I'm over my limit. Are you gonna "expose me" now?

  • Prisca
    Prisca
    PS GatoCat because I'm over my limit. Are you gonna "expose me" now?

    Nah, I'll let you expose yourself. Now, off with your undies!!

  • GatoCat
    GatoCat

    Ooh... come to papa, baby.

  • thinkers wife
    thinkers wife

    Just a side point. Good thing I didn't see your ad in the personals Comf. You and I might be married instead of Thinker!!
    TW

  • GatoCat
    GatoCat

    Wow, so you fit that description? Ooh! Ah! ...please convey to Thinker my congratulations on having convinced you to have him. Lucky man.

    COMF

  • celebrate
    celebrate

    Jason:

    Welcome - you will finds friends and comfort here. Many of us have been through the same process and know the pain as well as the joy that come from getting on the other side!

    Be gentle with yourself and give yourself time.

    celebrate

  • mindfield
    mindfield

    Why do heated arguments on this board always end in kissing, spanking, and auto-eroticism?

    Could it be that some of us have other browser windows opened to other sites containing questionable pics of male/female anatomy?

    (I know I do...) Just joking...

  • one
    one

    Jason,

    dont pay attention to 'everything'

    or were you asking for opinions and wheter we beleive your story or not?

    I dont think so

    You seem to be an very intelligent person,
    anything you want to learn about human relations etc has been written, so why pay a 'counselor' read read read the 'right' material and you will find your way out.

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