COMF, you strike me as the type of a$$hole that...
We should get this understanding at the outset, Reborn: I won't experience a millisecond of disturbance over how I strike you. I say exactly what I say. You attach all kinds of extra interpretations and assumptions to it and then get defensive at them--you own them, bro. You made them up. They're not in my words to you. What's your subconscious doing down in there?
Lets be honest, to continue to press the issue of someone having inconsistencies is to question their honesty.
Wrong. To be put in the position of having to press the issue; that's what calls their honesty into question. You could have simply acknowledged the points I brought out and clarified them to begin with. Then there wouldn't have been an issue to press. Why didn't you?
To call me slow on the pickup is also an indirect insult thrust in my direction.
No it isn't. It would be a direct insult if it wasn't true, but in your case, it appears that it is. I've said over and over and over that I'm not accusing you of anything, that I just want you to clarify the things I pointed out. It is possible to want something clarified without having any implications tied to it. You're obsessing over something I neither said nor implied, and which I have explicitly stated that I am not implying. You are, in other words, slow to pick up on the fact that no accusation against you has been made. That's no insult. Just plain old fact.
Thank you for finally explaining. Your story makes more sense now that some of the inconsistencies have been cleared up. Of course, the detailed version brings out a lot of facts that you neglected to mention earlier: that this sleeping over was a regular practice; that you slept in her bed; that you two had been drinking that night; that she was underage. It brings a bit more color to it than that pristine knight-in-shining-armor self-portrait you painted in the original story. Not that I blame you, man; if I was 21 and in your place I'm sure something very similar would have happened.
I dont have reason to sit here and fabricate anything on an online board.
And upon first meeting you, we all know that this is true of you (as distinct from others who have fabricated things on the board) how, exactly?
I came across this website with the intent of at least talking and venting, not having my integrity questioned.
Better get used to it, son. Your integrity is going to be questioned all your life by people who don't know you. The secret to making it through is to realize and accept that nobody has any reason to trust you, and to calmly provide people with the information they need to start building a basis for trust instead of kicking up a fuss. That is, unless you don't care whether you're trusted or not, in which case why are you making all this noise in here, anyway?
Like it or not, your statements have questioned my integrity.
As I said above: your own fanciful additions to my words have questioned your integrity.
I fully expect you to reply with some sarcastic remark or glaring inconsistency youve uncovered.
Sarcasm? Possible... depends on your position, I guess. I asked some questions, and you got all huffy and indignant. Occasionally, a few of my neck hairs do stiffen at such behavior. As for inconsistencies: yeah, buddy, you are sure right there. If I found any, I would sho nuff point them out.
Your a pretty rude guy you know that.
Not nearly as rude as you are slow on the pickup.
your the kind blah blah blah yakkity yakkity yak yak yak blather blather
Whatever, man.
either say something kind and encouraging, or say nothing at all.
Tell you what, son... why don't you give me a demonstration of how to do that, and I'll follow your example.
Say something nice, or shut the hell up.
Oh! That's how you do it. Okay, I'll see if I can whip out something as good as that next chance I get.
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I find it completely understandable for people to be skeptical. Im much more skeptical of any and all people now than I was before.
Now you're starting to get with the program.
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crownboy:
The exact words of his original post didn't actually contain accusations, but it sure sounded like one!
Crownboy, how many times must I explicitly state that I'm not accusing him of anything, before it becomes true?
His posts seem like a sort of Inquisition. Such a style is appropriate (and indeed appreciated) on certain topics, but in this case COMF should have used better judgement. Sounding accusatory on someones first post (even if your not trying to be) just isn't nice.
It depends on the content, Crownboy.
New poster:
APOSTATE SCUM!!! I WILL LAUF AT YUO WEN YOU'RE FLESSH ROTS OFF WILE YOUR STILL ALIFE!!! HAHAHAH!
Singed,
Jehovahs Toxic Angle
(toxic to apostats that is)
Crownboy:
Welcome, Toxic Angel. We're glad to have you with us, and hope to read many more encouraging posts by you!
The guy showed up in here and posted this poor-pitiful-me story, stuffed to overflowing with self-glorification, about how unjustly he was treated... and his story didn't even make sense. It still doesn't. I spoke to him in a straightforward manner, but not unkindly. I advised him of the need to set some things straight about his story. Fact is, I didn't even mention the most glaring problem in my first post; I didn't want to come down too hard on the guy.
Speaking of which, Reborn -
How does her accusing you of rape get her off the hook for having you guys spend the night? That still doesn't connect. What was the point of her saying that? "Yeah, he spent the night, but he tried to rape me, so that makes it okay that I let him stay over..." How does that work?
COMF
