The biggest problem with the Watchtowers reasoning on this subject (and many others) is that they never comprehensively examine the full outcome of their actions.
The quote we keep takling about (i.e. nobody should be made to choose between belief and family) is stated in such a way as to imply a universial application. As if this is some sort of ethical rule by which all people should be treated.
But is that what they really mean? They never explain the details and instead keep their articles generic and ambiguous. A JW and a non-jw will take away differeant things from this. A JW will recognize that this rule applies except when somebody is leaving "the truth" while a non-jw will most likely believe it implies universal application.
The question then remains, is the Watchtower implying a universal standard or is it not? Typcially when something is put forward as a univeral standard the basics are stated and then if there any exceptions they should be listed in details. The Watchtower however implies that a standard is universal and then says nothing about exceptions.
Notice how general and non descriptive this is:
No one (who are we speaking of? JWs, Ex-Jws, Non-JWs who want to be JWs?)
should be forced (what are the methods of this "force" and how are they applied? Can both JWs and Non-JWs applie this unfair force?)
to worship in a way that he find unacceptable (are jws, non-jws, and ex-jws all included?)
or be made to choose (again, how is one "made to choose"? What are the specific actions? How is it done?)
between his beliefs and his family. (whose beliefs and who family?)
There are many possible combinations:
Non-JW "forces" Person interested in becoming JW
Non-JW "forces" JW
Non-JW "forces" Non-JW
Non-JW "forces" Ex-JW
JW "Forces" Non-JW
JW "Forces" Ex-JW
EX-JW "Forces" Non-JW
Ex-JW "Forces" JW
Ex-JW "forces" Person interested in becoming JW
I'm sure I missed some. The point is that if this statement is not a "universal truth" then the exceptions (taken from the above list) should be described as to why they are exceptions.
OF course, this would force the WTS to admit that the standard is only good for those who "have the real truth", a morally dubious statement they would like to avoid making in print.