It actually all started a bit stronger when MJ died. He loves his music and curiousity got the better of him and he started to google everything about him and JWs. He was also watching a lot of youtube videos. One thing that really struck him was how LaToya said that MJ came up to him after the elders counceled him and said he could no longer talk to him and then how after MJ went up to a worldly guy and got what was really good advice in my hubbys eyes.
I knew something was going on because he was running really late to the meeting on Sunday and then stopped at Dunkin Donuts for a coffee on the way, lol.
So, last night after the meeting this is how our conversation went:
Hubby: Brother PO patted me on the back last night. He's still dangling that carrot in front of me but I really don't care anymore. (Meaning he's dangling the carrot of letting him be an MS.)
Cognac: Is it a weight off your shoulders?
Hubby: Yeah, it's nice to know they don't have anything over me anymore. So and so is an MS and he has tons of talks he has to do. That's work. I don't want that. Did you notice I didn't wear my jacket?
Cognac: Yeah, but didn't think much about it. Why?
Hubby: Because I wanted to show the elders that I didn't care.
Hubby: Started talking about the whole LaToya and MJ thing and said that he doesn't "know what he's about to say is apostate or not, but he thinks the whole disfellowshippig thing is crap. You should always be able to talk to your family. Maybe not about spiritual things, but you should always be able to talk to them."
Cognac: You know, the same thing could happen with us and our daughter.
Hubby: I won't raise her that way.
Cognac: Yeah, but if she goes to the meetings, she could very well be indoctrinated there and whatever we do may not make a difference. What if she were to get disfellowshipped one day?
Hubby: I'd still talk to her.
Cognac: You could get disfellowshipped.
Hubby: I don't care. But I would still go to the meetings.
Cognac: They would never reinstate you though because you are not repentent because you talk to your daughter.
Hubby: I don't care.
He also said that the whole dfing thing is what is bringing down the JWs because its making people see that the JWs are not loving people. Ok, that's about all I can remember.
PS. Before we even had our daughter we agreed we would take her to the meetings for a couple of years and let her decide if she wanted to go or not. What 3 or 4 year old would want to go to the meeting? I'm just giving my hubby time before I stop bringing our daughter there altogether. I know that some of you probably don't agree with what I am doing, but what I am doing is working for my particular situation. And we also agreed before I got pregnant to celebrate the holidays as long as we call them a different names. Although, since we decided that he told me there is nothing wrong with celebrating the 4th of July and Thanksgiving.