by John Doe 63 Replies latest social relationships
I agree with Mrs J. What if a mate suffers cancer or other disease? Is that grounds for moving on?
Let me tell u about women preferring men that are fit. At 40 I was getting hit on more than when I had huge hair and a guitar in the 80's. At 40 I was a big fat-ass. When I hit 40 I hit a demographic of people who wanted companionship. Just a kind word or joke got me in the door
I wasn't that shallow when I was dating either.
Estephan
"Let me tell u about women preferring men that are fit. At 40 I was getting hit on more than when I had huge hair and a guitar in the 80's. At 40 I was a big fat-ass. When I hit 40 I hit a demographic of people who wanted companionship. Just a kind word or joke got me in the door"
I think as I've matured my taste in what kind of man I'm attracted to has changed. When I met my husband I was mainly attracted to slim guys. Now as we have gotten older I like a man with more meat on the bones. I'm fortunate that the hubby has accommodated me.
Right on Sistah J.
I'm glad I never went back
I have meat on my bones, it's just a little firm is all I am 48 years old now and the photo was taken at 47 I believe. Believe me it takes a lot of work to stay fit and it get tougher as you age. I do not smoke or drink excessively, only on occasion. But since I have not drank much in my lifetime just a little puts me under where I do not feel good the next day. I am not in perfect health but just overlook all tha ails me. I do not keep track of my age out of habit from not celebrating my birthdays growing up as a JW. I am Christian by faith an not offiliated with any group but belong solely to GOD. I understand how people have the need to feel contant in their heart and need companionship, so I am not mocking anyone by any means. The common cliche of "to each his own" will apply without the need to judge on another in their personal preferences in companionship. I look forward to the day when I say that I believe I am 100 years old but still have my appearance in youth. That say is upon us and not far off in time.
Have a great night as this is my last post for the evening........
With all my love
Estephan Leuese
I'm 21 & i regularly date girls half my age
Age is nothing. I have nothing against people dating 18 year olds when they are approaching 120, as long as everyone is upfront about the situation. True, women have the disadvantage in that their menopause marks the limiting factor in reproduction, while men do not have this absolute time limit. And, ugly men generally are less at a disadvantage than ugly women (which tends to get worse as we age). In fact, if science were able to erase the effects of aging, it would be no problem at all.
There are a few issues, however--dating someone that is more than about 20 years older or younger is like dating someone from another culture--the older member will have to adopt a younger attitude for it to work well (which may not be a bad idea--it often helps if someone that is 98 years old is forced to act 20 for a time). If the woman is something like 50 or 60, dating a guy that is 18, his immaturity could be an issue (this is not as much an issue when men date younger women, since the woman often looks at men for advice and stability). However, this is not an absolute barrier (nor should it be), any more than it would be to date someone from another country or race. Of course, with the problems the witlesses create, a younger man/older woman is going to run into more issues with that damn headship issue, if he insists that everything she does is what he tells her to.
One exception is when the hounders are in a hounding call, set aside the children, molest them, and then order them to keep quiet about it or get disfellowshipped. This is initiatory force and threats of force, besides being RAPE. In those situations, the pedophiles need some jail time.
My last boyfriend was 10 years younger than me. Totally wrong for each other, but OMG the chemistry.
Current boyfriend is 8 years younger than me, and a good match. But I didn't want to commit to him until I was sure he was serious about not wanting children (I can't have any more). I didn't want to be responsible for taking a life experience away from him that he might regret later.
I wonder what the statistics are on men over 40 who need viagra..FHN
It's true that erectile dysfunction is more common in older men, but many potential Viagra users are hardly senior citizens: About 40% of 40-year -old men in the U.S. have some degree of erectile dysfunction. Most Viagra users today, according to Pfizer, are in their early to mid 50s
These are surprising facts for me least
I don't think you're too old for the young lady, John. The fact that you feel a twinge of conscience just shows that you have ethics and hold yourself too good standards.
When Andy and I were becoming friends, I thought he was amazing and compatible as a great friend. I would have never dreamt of dating him. I did notice he was attractive, but for younger women than me. It took him a good six months to convince me I was not too old for him. My relationship with him is the best I've had. We are still great friends. We still love each other dearly, though we are no longer a couple. We have exceptional communication. We agree on almost everything, with just enough differences to make it interesting. He will be a hard act to follow. I have no desire to date at this time, because his shoes will be hard to fill. I could never be with someone who didn't treat me as well as Andy has. Time will maybe bring someone else along that will compare.
Women don't have to be able to bear children to be amazing lovers. Men who have E.D. are at a distinct disadvantage in the performance area. And very sad to say, viagra does not really duplicate what nature intended. For some men, it barely works. I have talked to enough women my age about men this age and older. Too many middle-aged men have ED and prostate issues. And the funny thing is, some of them are the ones chasing very much younger women. I'm talking 30 years younger.
