First time posting..HELLO! (page 3)

VIII

Hi kl2009 and Welcome to the forum!

I went to a funeral a couple of years ago for a JW and acted like I had been at the KH last week. (It has been quite a few years). I am not DFd, just faded. Everyone who knows me treated me nicely. They are trying to get people like me back in. My sister, who is DFd, was treated a little more stand-offish. She was DFd decades ago.

I would do as stated above: act dignified and kind and loving. Just as you would normally. You don't have any reason to act like you are the one who is wrong, they are. Shunning is wrong. Period.

Welcome and keep coming back.

restrangled

Hello to you and welcome!

Black Sheep

Hi, Welcome to the forum.

Rebel is spot on with her comments. It is easy to forget that we are the normal ones and that they are the cult members.

If they think there might be some chance that you might return you might even be love bombed. A lot depends on mentality of that particular congregation. If they start acting like cult members, treat them as you would treat anyone who is retarded.

Cheers

Chris

Chalam

Hi and welcome!

Walk in with your head held high and be gracious. I would not slink into the back row - unless that's where you personally really want to be. Rebel8's advice to follow normal social etiquette is right on. Don't worry about their warped rules. Dress clean and neat but no need to go buy a suit, either.

Plenty of great advise already :)

Blessings,

Stephen

Lillith26

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lisavegas420

Just be yourself. I mean if your normally a kind person...just be yourself. If you're normally nasty, then be kind, just kidding. Don't worry so much about it. Just do what you want to be remembered for.

lisa

oompa

kl2009 welcome!...........and you asked if there is a more relaxed atmosphere among some dubs?.....DEFINITELY among most younger dubs.....my son and i were washing our boat in the front yard last summer and a group of young dubs were in service on our street and had not seen him in a couple of years and all got out, hugged and visited a bit.....hell this apostate even got hugged! this has happened when we are out to dinner too

bigger news maybe....some older ones no longer feel they have the time or reason to shun family anymore.....my mom has justified contact with my dfd son because she disagreed with him being allowed to be baptized at a young age even though me and wife spoke out against it to the elders.....my dad/elder has not come around yet and still shuns him..............

i agree to just show your love and concern there like NORMAL people and feel pity for those who do not accept it.....yeah thats it, keep at it more if they do!!!...."heap fiery coals upon their head"..........lmao...........oompa

chickpea

no need to repeat the
already sterling advice
being offered to you

so instead i will simply say:
welcome to the forum...

condolences to you
regarding the loss of
your friend....

Witness 007

Welcome from Australia

lacking18

Im new here too. but as on your subject on going.....I say go.

If this person was close then you should be able to pay your respects, recently where I live a member or ex member(im not sure...havent gone in long time) killed himself. My sister(who no longer attends either) has been close with his family and works for the kids mom. She went to the KH and so did my mother who no longer goes(but who is thinking about going back). People were happy to see them and I guess asked about me. But in my reasoning I believe that you were close you have the right to pay repects and yes your family is still witness but she asked if you would be sitting with them. Thus at least someone wants you there.

Im also pretty sure this mans family will not shun you, not at this time. Its completly up to you. Hope this helps out.

First time posting..HELLO!

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