by dgp 40 Replies latest jw friends
In my 20 years as a JW I only recall one woman over 35 getting married to a JW, and he was in his 70s. The rest either stayed single or found "worldly" husbands.
My divorced JW daughter remarried at age 39, the guy was 45, also a divorced JW. She is apparently happy with her husband--don't know for sure, she won't talk to me.
Of course, we are assuming that these women all want to get married.
If you are divorced, female, in your 40s, and have children, staying a witless means trouble. There is an excellent chance that you will have to work to support yourself financially (at some menial job, at that), plus put in field circus and go to all the boasting sessions. If the children are all gone, child support will not be an issue for either side. The chances for remarriage are bleak in the religion, and not only because of a shortage of "brothers". Every time you find someone you are interested in, the hounders will do all they can to bust it up. Then, there is a very good chance that you will find another rotten jerk that only wants everything you do to be what he tells you to.
Later in life, you will become destitute. I have seen this happen, and those "sisters" usually end up having very little because they cannot save up anything for retirement. More common than not, their health will start breaking down, and you will become dependent on other "sisters" to get around (like to boasting sessions or out in field circus). You will not be allowed to seek rides from "brothers", because they will think fornication is imminent (which usually is not the case). You will die stagnant, heavy of heart, not having any experiences beyond pio-sneering and boasting sessions, and almost certainly destitute (yet, I have seen "sisters" in this situation put wads of $20 bills into the Worldwide Pedophile Defense Fund like nothing).
I do not recommend staying a witless.
I knew two women over forty that married JW men.
The first one married a handsome self made milloinaire (really, no joke!)
The second one married a JW man in a wheelchair with advanced stages of MS, she became his full time care giver.
I was looking at singlehood in my late thirties. I knew immediately that I would never want another JW man.
Wasn't sure if i ever wanted ANY man again, but I knew for sure that I DID NOT want a JW man, period.
IF she chooses to remain single, her social status will probably drop. Older single woman tend not to get included in social circles, except when it's with other single woman.
She probably will be expected to pioneer, what with all that spare time she has.....
I also want to add, that having money helps a sister greatly.
A very lonely life, more drudge and slaving for the WT. Very few single men of that age were in the cong I was in. And the ones that were there were fussed and fawned over as if they were demi-gods by the single sis. I couldn,t bear it one recently divorced bro of course loved all this attention and became very arrogant and had the ego the size of a house. I was never chosen to work with a bro in field service as I was aparently being "protected" for God sake i,m a grown woman with my own mind. Being controlled is the word they should have used. Bloody stupid WT.
What can a divorced woman in her forties expect if she stays in the WT?
To get screwed without ever having sex
She can expect to find a widowed brother around 65-70 to marry her, so he has someone to cook, clean and
take care of him for the last 10-20 years of his life. He will be bald, with false teeth and bad breath, 50-100 lbs overweight and his kids and grandkids will make life miserable for you.
Her fifties. W.Once
I can think of 15 divorced women in their 40's who married jw men. Some were 10 to 15 years younger; divorced themselves.
