What can a divorced woman in her forties expect if she stays in the WT? (page 3)

cantleave

My mum found a man eventually after her 1st marriage went down the pan. She married a weasly, irritating, pompous ass in 2000, 22 years after her divorce.

ziddina

Yoiks! In the early 1980's I was a divorced woman in my early 30's within the WTBTS; I ran like the

(P.S. And I looked like this at the time:

Hope this helps you make a good decision...

Zid

metatron

This is a tough question to answer. I don't think it's as simple as many would make it. Let me put it this way:

Witness Advantage: Marriage is the only accepted route to get sex. So, this could shift the odds towards finding someone to marry - as opposed to just sleeping around - within an organization that rejects all sexual relationships except for wedlock.

Witness Disadvantage: You are stuck in a sterile, unhappy cult with boring meetings and stupid attendant responsibilities. Your life may be subject to interference by uneducated, sexist elders. As a woman, you will always be inferior - not even capable of directing a car into a parking space at an assembly. If you get pregnant at age 40 - which poses risks - abortion is not permitted. Need blood? Sorry, you must die while elders hover over your hospital bed. Oh, and further - your husband may be an ignorant sexist pig who thinks God Almighty has appointed him in authority over you.

Also, you may have to adapt to a blended family, being a stepmom, etc. At age 40, divorced guys with kids may be your primary opportunity. You don't want a guy who has lived with mom for 4+ decades.

As negative as the above may sound, in fairness, some people may actually want a simple life with unquestioning acceptance. Why do you think a certain percentage of Amish spawn ( and that's not an inaccurate description when you have a lot of kids expecting that you may have to disown a number of them) return to the 'church'?

My general advice? Give a E-Harmony or other online services a chance and see where it leads. If it doesn't work out, then good luck with Witnesses. Just remember that a bad marriage can be worse than no marriage at all. Too many people forget that....

Buena Suerte,

metatron

parakeet

A divorced woman in her forties who stays in the WT can expect emotional and spiritual slavery for the rest of her life, which, if you believe in the "new world," would be forever.

A divorced woman in her forties who leaves the WT can expect to live the rest of her life as she chooses, with the whole world and its opportunities at her disposal.

dgp

Parakeet, I love your answer .

In case you don't know this, people, I am an unbeliever (and the term is correctly used in my case) who fell in love with a witness woman in her forties. She's divorced, because she was able to prove her elder husband was cheating on her. Sometimes I think I KNOW FOR A FACT that she endured several years of misery in the company of this man. I believe that, in a way, his cheating was the best thing that could happen to her. Now she's alone, and her witness children don't even live in the same country. One of the children is married, and the other is thinking of becoming a missionary. This woman's family is away, too. So, in my books, she's virtually alone. She's been making a series of bad decisions, but I was unable to make her understand why those decisions were wrong (even if you look at them from the point of view of a witness). I am afraid she will end up alone and miserable, and, from what I see, that can actually happen, and is likely to happen.

If she went the cougar way, and they found out, she'd be disfellowshipped, and I know for a fact she doesn't want that. If she married someone in the WTBTS, most likely it would be an older man, I knew, and I have confirmed that. I believe she will choose the single life in the society.

I wanted your perspective, people, because, though I very much have to maintain my distance, I believe that, eventually, I could become her only friend outside of the WTBTS and she might need me. I have absolutely no hope of ever marrying her. Some of you advised me against that, and I have found you did that with good reason. But, still, I want to have a picture of what she could be going through in the future, to be there if necessary.

I thank you very much for your comments and posts. If you want to keep posting, please, do so.

Again, thank you very much, pals

dgp

Ziddina, you looked great

Billy the Ex-Bethelite

dgp,

Additionally, if her husband is "repentant", she can look forward to seeing him remarry a young, attractive "sister". Depending on the BoE, he may get responsibilities and reappointment. He and his new wife will enjoy an active social life which she, as so much divorced "damaged goods", will be left out of.

I've seen that waaaaay too often.

The Almighty Homer

The JWS religion is very sexist against woman thats a certainy, some people have already touched on that already.

My sister who is in her 40's as been single for almost 15 years, she divorced her husband who was creep , since then

she has dated a few, but she dropped them all for a number of reasons.

The problem is that there so few potential guys in her age bracket that come along, not one single guy in her hall.

But nevertheless she's a devoted JW so she continues, in her singleness which I know she doesn't like for herself

to be single in a very married social environment. Shame really because she's very attractive and has a nice out going happy personality,

but the dam stupid cult has got her locked in a cocoon where there is nowhere else to go.

RubaDub

I would expect to buy a lot of rechargable batteries for the toys (think Rabbit, Butterfly, etc.)

Rub a Dub

dgp

Rub-a-dub

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