A question about marriage in the organization

by dgp 35 Replies latest jw friends

  • WTWizard
    WTWizard

    I would be more worried about the possibility of marrying an abuser than someone that is much older. From what I have been seeing, all too many witless men are abusive. They abuse their children--and it is not just a spanking, but severe beatings and worse. I have heard of husbands that control their wives to death--in the congregation I used to attend, I saw this too often. The slimebag that dragged me into the cancer already lost one wife who got tired of his tyranny, and had just married another. Within 4 years, she also got tired of his absolute tyranny. This is also not good for any children--who are invariably dragged along in and out of the boasting sessions, and moved from apartment to apartment every few months.

    Additionally, I have seen way too many serious crimes committed by witlesses in recent years. The pedophiles are a major issue. Better someone that is much older than someone that is "age appropriate" and a pedophile--who might commit incest against the children. And, with the push to recruit from prisons and mental institutions, I would be worried more about having someone that is going to eat the babies (this already happened once, and was reported on this site and Six Screens of the Watchtower last August).

    I think I would rather take chances on someone that is not "age appropriate" and is not going to molest the children that result, abuse those children, beat or tyrannize the wife, or eat the babies.

  • dgp
    dgp

    WTWizard, I would hate to be accused of having a bias against older men, being one myself. But, what if the older man were abusive, and decided to devote himself to preaching while his young wife works? I saw this happen.

    I understand everyone's points and I do share the idea that age should not be that important, particularly compared to other personality traits. But, I have one question: of all the May to December marriages that you saw happen in the organization, how many, in your opinion, would have happened anyways if the girl in question had been free to marry outside?

  • John Doe
    John Doe
    I feel you.
    My pretty little college-educated JW daughter will turn 21 in June.
    If some old coot came a-callin,' I would grab a 2x4 and send him a-packin!'
    Bastards!
    Sylvia

    What's her number?

  • shopaholic
    shopaholic

    I've seen this so many times it makes my stomach turn. The girls are looking for a daddy and the men are looking for a toy. I've asked JW men about this and their answer has been that young girls look up to them but you have to prove yourself to women your own age. In other words less work.

    And yes, this is not un-common in the midwest. And the parents are typically all for it. I had older JWs interested in me when in my early 20's and I was grossed out. But then again, I attended college at an early age so that early exposure provided more of a normal view of life and relationships. But then again, thats probably why I'm still single...LOL

  • DaCheech
    DaCheech

    all the young 18-35 year old sisters drool and kiss the ass of CO Micheal Emilio (49-53ish) but he's too gay to take any of them up for their offers

  • Butterflyleia85
    Butterflyleia85

    I feel marriage should be about love and communication. Treating each other with respect. I had allot in common with this guy that was my age but he was dfed... and because of the stupid elders and fear, it all disappeared. If I wanted to learn my lesson I wanted to learn it through an honest way not a forced way. For parents and grandparents or the so called wise that force (maybe a strong word... pesters) their childern to marry don't be suprised if the marriage fails or the child goes crazy and rebels.

    I agree with alot here that age doesn't matter to a degree. I mean look at me, I'm 23 and getting married to a 35 year old. I think I worded things in past post a bet bias way... (said it wrong, mainly cause that struck a nerve from past experience)

    Marriage should be about honesty, feeling comfortable and sharing love... a partner, your other half, etc.

    Not just on simularities... what looks right... what works in others eyes... or what's convenant... worse yet what will only benifit you and not the other person... but about the spark and the friendship you will have for the rest of your life!!

    All this marriage talk makes me miss my man at work. hehe

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