"Do not become unevenly yoked"--weird comment at meeting

by sd-7 32 Replies latest jw friends

  • miseryloveselders
    miseryloveselders

    Since these people feel they are 'matchmakers', why don't they appoint a panel of elders/eldresses in each congregation to decide who should marry whom?

    And it doesn't matter how old the couple is. They could be 18 or 65. It doesn't matter. They have to pass inspection by the panel and only then can they be married. If they rate higher than a certain grade then they can be married in the kingdom hall. Otherwise, they have to get married in a justice of the peace. The prospective marriage mates should submit his/her theocratic resume to this panel and wait to be interviewed. And then they will be told if they pass or fail. If they fail, they cannot marry. If they disobey, they are subject to lifetime shunning.

    Seriously, however, the religion instills more barriers and walls inside of their so-called brotherhood. It is so much so that the average person in any given hall must be paranoid about who their 'real' brothers are.

    If it wasn't so sad I would actually laugh.

    I wouldnt be surprised if you see this happen someday. I could have sworn either in the Young People Ask book, or another older WT magazine, there was an article that spoke positively of arranged marriages. We know how much our Clergy class , err the GB loves the Mosaic Law and especially the punishments for erring against it. I can see them sitting in a room debating how biblical it would be to institute marriage by committee. I'd love to see SD-7 do an article on this.

    Billy-I wonder if this "one woman" has any idea how difficult it is becoming for single dubs to find ANYBODY in the bOrg that draws a spark.

    Last night after the meeting, I noticed we have several single sisters. These are adult women who if not JWs would probably be dating or married by now. Half of them are Pioneers. I would never ask, but knowing their personalities I can see them using the convenient excuse of not having time for dating as they're putting spirtual persuits first by pioneering. Its a good coverup, but the reality is most of em are craving a husband. The part thats ironic to me is, there is a woman in our congregation who is seriously dating, but she and the guy she's dating both have one foot in and the other foot out. I see them both fading in due time. I wouldnt be surprised if one or both of them are posting on here. But its gotta be rough on those who want to get married or date really bad but due to this toxic culture within this organization cant. I say to myself if normal people who are not JW have troubles with dating and marriage, you would have to expect it would be ten times worse for active JWs.

  • undercover
    undercover
    I heard a really bizarre comment at one of the recent meetings. Someone, in quoting this scripture, of course went with the usual doctrine of not marrying/dating someone who is not a JW. But one woman took it even further, by saying that this applied even to people INSIDE the congregation who 'weren't spiritual enough' or didn't have some magnificent spiritual goals in life.

    As already commented by several others, this is kinda in line with the Society's view on avoiding bad association, even in the congregation.

    The thing that stands out to me is that the WTS is so paranoid that there are independant thinkers amongst the friends that they have to take scriptures and apply to not only evil worldly people but to people inside their own organization. An uber dub really has a small circle of friends he can trust or associate with...if they take the counsel to heart...which is exactly what the bORg wants. Alienate them, isolate them, control their thoughts and then their actions.

  • sd-7
    sd-7

    Miseryloveselders--you want it, you got it. An arranged marriage article. OOoooh yeah. It's going to be classic. First you have to sound like you're not making hard & fast rules. Then you lay out the hard & fast rules, along with the exceptions to those rules, then what is done if said rules are broken. I think there'll be forms, too. Yup. I'm looking forward to that one.

    But yeah...it's true they talk, but if you just remember that that's the only world they'll ever know, you'll see just how pitiful they really are. Of course, I actually saw that while I was INSIDE. "How much more so" do I see it now!

    Surprised this topic has hung around this long. Nice.

    --Christopher

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