Quality Men who Don't Smoke and Don't Get Drunk... (page 2)

LittleSister

Have you tried internet dating sites?

One lady I used to work with found her hubby that way and even this guy I know who is the most techie if geeks found a girlfriend.

I guess it's true there is someone for everyone.

Black Sheep

Smoking doesn't make a person evil. Niether does drinking.

You have an aversion to people who drink and smoke. Deal with it. Don't hang out where they do.

Who bestowed on you the right to make the rules for the rest of mankind? It wasn't any God that I know of.

Cheers

Chris

Broken Promises

White Dove wasn’t saying that smokers were evil.

She is simply lamenting the fact that she finds it hard to find “a quality guy” who doesn’t smoke, or to find places where ppl aren’t smoking.

As a non-smoker, I understand her dilemma. Sure, there are quality men who smoke, but if a person doesn’t like kissing an ashtray, then it’s often hard to find someone who doesn’t.

Black Sheep

Some of the nastiest people I know, and are related to, are non-smokers, non-drinkers, and non-drug users.

I would never use any of those criteria to decide who were going to be my friends. A person can be all of those and still be a valuable member of society, a good partner, a good friend and a good parent.

A Jehovah's Witness in good standing is none of the above and that, in no way, qualifies them as good parents, friends or partners without some serious compromises on the part of the people associating with them.

For me, everyone gets a pass card, regardless of what I may consider to be their personal foibles, until their actions prove that my lenience has been in error.

Cheers

Chris

Robdar

I don't want to get involved with anyone who I might have to nurse through smoke related illness and premature death.

I've lost 3 male friends over the past year who did not smoke and drank only in moderation. One was in his 40's and the other two in their 50's. The big C got 2 of them and a heart attack got the other one. I can still hear his wife say, "but he wasn't a smoker."

I do not mean to be cruel but for all you know, your smoking partner might be the one who has to nurse you through an illness that will cause your premature death. It's all a crap shoot and any one of us could go at any time. Might as well try to find someone to love while you have a chance.

AK - Jeff

I understand what WD is saying here.

WHile it is true that anyone can develop lung/heart disorders - it is also true that the risk for that is greatly increased in many people if they smoke, or if they are in the presence of smokers. I think she is not judging people here, she is saying that to her it is a habit she does not want to live with for the rest of her life. I can understand that.

My dad has suffered a heart attack, and now has cancer, probably all related to lifelong habit of smoking. My mother died at 67 from lung disorders brought on directly by smoking. My cousin, a smoker, died at just 46 from cancer. On and on.

I can understand the desire to find a mate who will not increase his risk of early mortality by smoking. I wish you well in that venture, WD. I think that going to the gym might not be a bad idea that was suggested. Or online dating sites might be worth a try. Millions use them, and they help put people together with similar views.

Whoever made the nasty remark about her being pagan was just out of line. What does that have to do with this?

Peace and Good Luck to you.

Jeff

Robdar

Whoever made the nasty remark about her being pagan was just out of line. What does that have to do with this?

I think the point was that everybody is guilty of habits that others find annoying or may not find trust worthy.

My second husband was a practicing pagan before he converted to Russian Orthodox. Do I like pagans? Yes. Would I marry another pagan? No.

keyser soze

I think that these type of men are more prevalent then you realize. You just have to know where to look. If every man you live near, or work with, is a smoker and a lush then perhaps you need to expand your horizons a little.

mrsjones5

I found a man who doesn't smoke and drinks in moderation (I've never seen him drunk) so it is possible White Dove. I hope you find the guy for you.

yknot

..... My grandma said....

You gotta kiss a lot of toads before you find one that turns into a prince....

Remember a few things too....

You gotta get out of the house to be seen!

How you feel is often reflected in the vibes you put out!

Smile, genuine smiles and make 'brief' eye contact

Men chase...... women set the pace.....(so if you meet a guy you kinda vibe with and he smokes.....let him know how much you are indeed interested but that you have this 'standard' of non-smoking. If he likes you in return, he will ditch the cancer sticks... ..... men actually do really well when presented with 'earning' a gals affections)

Wear something that makes you feel sexy (hint of perfume, racy undergarments, a piece of jewelry or a ribbon in you hair)

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Asilentone.....I know you mean well ......however when talking to girls whom you are not seeking romantically but still wanna be 'helpful'.......

Remember gentlemenly TACT is greatly appreciated. You don't tell a gal she look awful in lemonade yellow you politely suggest a blue dress instead

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