Need help picking an engagement ring (page 4)

minimus

Most women don't want an antique "used" diamond ring as their engagement ring.

Minimus, have you seen The Sixth Sense? Right now, "vintage" engagement rings are particularly "hot". Personally, I like the romantic idea that I'm marrying with a ring that was once used by another couple for a very long, happy marriage. NOT a pawn shop ring but an estate ring.

StAnn

minimus

"New vintage" style rings are very very popular. Rings that look like 1920/1930 eras are in. The problem with most 80 year old rings is that they are not in excellent condition, whereas new vintage style rings are brand new. The prongs and shanks are perfect.

Butterflyleia85

Me and my fiance picked out my ring together, just for fun (so I thought). 3 months later, I got the ring I wanted.. It was a romantic suprise! He took me to St. Louis for 4th of July. I thought it was just a fun trip we were taken but it was even more then that it was the wkn he proposed!!!

I picked out a 1 ct. He picked out 2.5 ct. !!! OMG! I'm so nieve... I had a feeling but wow I had no clue he would go this far!!

I'm 23 and his 35... this will be my first marriage and his second... don't no if that helps you deside.

minimus

That's a beautiful diamond set!

Butterflyleia85

Thanks Minimus!! Cagefighter in all in all if she loves you she will love any ring you get her! If you take her out for fun shopping whatever and happen to see rings you can ask her what her favorite is and then bump it up a noch. BTW I love the ring you picked out in the picture, it's semular to my first choice ring.

Jadeen

You'll also want to consider what type of work your fiance does. If her job is more hands on, a smaller, higher quality ring might be better than a huge rock.

My diamond is about a third carat, but has very slight imperfections and is colorless. It has a gorgeous sparkle to it that many of my friends' larger stones lack.

Or you could look at getting her a colored diamond- maybe in her favorite color? Traditional, yet unique.

sammielee24

Beautiful Butterfly!

I wouldn't want an estate or antique ring - never. Don't know the karmic halo that might be in there. sammieswife

Cagefighter

Personally I like simple and traditional but I feel if I get something too unique it will decrease the odds that she will feel comfortable exchanging it for what she really wants. The stone is my biggest concern. Anybody had any luck on saving money on the Stone I want at least I on color and no defects that cant be seen without a loop so s1 or vs2... And a good or better cut. for 1ct It is looking like about 3k.

LeeT

Unfortunately I've no advice on the ring itself. Just a cautionary tale on how not to propose.

I worked in a restaurant/nightclub a few years ago. One evening a couple came in. They seemed to have been out for the evening already when they arrived. The boyfriend of the couple made a few trips to the bar and each time downed a double at the bar whilst waiting for his drinks. It was noted by the bar staff that the body language was getting tense at their table. Raised voices were noted a while later, followed by a full blown shouting match. By the time staff approached to calm the situation the female was sat at the table in tears whilst the male was angrily walking around shouting whilst scanning the floor behind his girlfriend. The whole episode had clearly disturbed nearby diners. A member of door staff tried to calm the boyfriend, asking him to step outside to calm down and explain the problem. He refused and continued shouting and ended up being forcibly ejected. Outside he still wouldn't calm down and there was no way he could be let in until his attitude was more measured and not liable to disturb everybody in the building. Instead he picked a fight with the door staff, this was noted by passing police and he was arrested and taken to the police station without his girlfriend.

Meanwhile other staff comforted the girlfriend and got her to explain what had occured. It transpired that he was drinking so heavily to pluck up the courage to propose. He'd clearly misjudged and his girlfriend was at best noncommital. This led to the argument and in his anger he threw the engagement ring at his girlfriend but missed her completely. He had been wandering around looking for the ring. It should have been somewhere on the floor, though several thorough searches of the area yielded no ring. It was never found, at least not by the couple or by staff.

What had started out as a plan for a romantic night out culminating in a proposal of marriage, ended in drunkenness, anger, argument, loss of an expensive engagement ring and arrest. Whether they ever got it together and now laugh at the events of that night I don't know. It certainly could have gone more smoothly.

Hopefully whatever ring you choose, you'll get the response you desire. Just remember, one drink to stiffen your resolve should be enough. Good luck.

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