Tammy, you wrote:
But I think arguing over it can become a trap. You could be right, and I could certainly be wrong. But in the end, whether there is predestination for all or free will or any combination of the two, should any of this make a difference to us?
It makes a difference to me. It gives us an idea of just what type of God we're worshipping, IMHO. Is he partial, sentencing billions to eternity in Hell (however defined) before they're even born? Or, were we created with the capacity to love Him and choose Him? Did he do what is necessary so that everyone would have a fair chance at evaluating his offer?