by wifeofjw 38 Replies latest jw friends
So I heard from the hubby that we may have a problem with unemployement getting processed due to error with paperwork. So, now it may take longet than a month to get unemployment. Maybe this will change his mind.
VE - It can be hard sometimes to respect a mate who is influenced so much be the cult. I try to remember the man I married is still in there somewhere and that not everyting he learned is useless.
Ding - Good point I will be sure to gently point this out
In fact, it is not unsually in this hall for the women to have the jobs that bring in the most money and cover the health insurance. These ladies have to work take care of the family and do all the stuff at the hall so the men can be at home and get together for coffee.
Hmm...my guess is that I wasn't in this particular congregation.
1 Timothy 5:8 makes clear that a man must provide for his household if he is physically able to do so. I don't see how this man can get away with a clear violation of that. Paying one's debts is also a Christian responsibility. This doesn't really make sense.
My wife doesn't work, but lacks the educational qualifications to be meaningfully employed. It actually serves no purpose for her to work, as the day care costs alone would make it pointless. But that's a bit different, I think. Either way, there is no excuse for burdening one's partner with debt for the sake of increased spiritual activity. It would be unloving.
I'm not sure how long I can stay married to the Witnesses, either. Thankfully, the Witnesses divorced me after they found out I was cheating on them with multiple religions. I used to send text messages to other religions, saying, "I will leave my faith for you." I think there's a worship tape out there on the Internet somewhere, with me and the Christadelphians gettin' it on, in a spiritual sense.
But seriously, one of the hardest things to do is separate the Witnesses from your mate. I have struggled with this. One has to remember that your mate is not a religion, your mate is a person, an individual IN a religion. His actions are not in harmony with his religion anyway, so they must be a reflection of his true self. I can't see the elders accepting this behavior, I really can't.
Beyond that, this fellow needs a rather significant nudge towards working again. Women are better at 'nudging' than men are, so...I think I'll leave how you choose to do that up to your discretion. Wish you the best.
--sd-7
I have not read all the responses But tell him to read Rom 13:8 in HIS bible
He seems to think that a new job might be provided by satan to keep him to busy to do witness things.
You read this 3 times.
He is getting you in debt.
Now follow your instinct and common sense.
Mouthy it is so good to "hear" from you. I read your posts and I'm always encouraged. I'm glad you are well. I know you still believe in prayer so can you say a prayer for me & hubby when you can. I'll ask him to read the scripture tonight.
Sd-7 you are so right one of the hardest things to do is separate the Witnesses from your mate. I plan to work on this.
wifeofjw.I will say it right now.mmany on board dont believe as I do but all I need is 1 AMEN
because where 2 are joined in prayer the LORD mmakes it a threesome
"Dear Heavenly Father we come before you with a request for our sister
who is going through a difficult time,she has the LOVE you say makes a good
marriage,but her hubby,seems to have his mindcuffed to the old men who SAY
they are substitute's for CHRIST.Dear Jesus we ask you send the HOLY SPIRIT
to remove the blinders that are engulfing his mind.Please allow the TRUE light
to shine in his heart. You promise us that where two or three are united in prayer
you will answer it.WE are trusting in YOU.We ask this in the NAME ABOVE ALL Others
JESUS CHRIST AMEN"
Wow to hear that in your husband's congregation the majority of the men don't work but the women do......that is quite unusual in the witness world. They usually don't like their women to be empowered in anyway....weird. Well to let you know willfull non support is a ground to seperate in the cult. You may want to remind him of that......maybe that will bring him to his senses.
1 Timothy 5:8 makes clear that a man must provide for his household if he is physically able to do so. I don't see how this man can get away with a clear violation of that. Paying one's debts is also a Christian responsibility. This doesn't really make sense.
Thanks for the point, I was going to refer to 1 Tim. Your husband is SUPPOSED to provide for his household. It appears he is not disable but lazy. He is not qualified to serve.
MeanGirl - I thought this was a little strange too. However, I can think of 4 women off the top of my head that bread winners in my hubby's hall and 2 in a hall in the same area. That is 6 women who keep the families that depend on the wives to provide the bulk of the income for the families. The men are unemployed or work a part-time or low paying/low stress job.
I just thought of one more make that 7. If it was not for these ladies the families could not make it.
When I read things on this board I can see that they do things a little different in my area.
I hope the best for you Wifeofjw. I think the wife making the money is a USA "problem" I supported my EX JW he ALWAYS used the "cult" as an excuse not to go to school, get a good job. I went to school and when I started to bring in a paycheck (nurse) he started to work less and less...He also kept the money and all our savings when I left CREEP! At work I'd say the majority of girl nurses are the bread winner! but my new husband makes more then me.
