: Also if my child said that to me, my first response would be what would she like to do in order to get a reward, maybe we could work out something.
You are kidding, aren't you?
You tell your kids what you, as their parent, require them to do. You even tell them you will give them, on top of everything else you already give them, a wonderful reward for doing as they are told. They then turn around and tell you that they don't care what you want them to do, and that they are going to do what ever "fells right" to themselves. But they tell you that they want that reward you were going to give them for obeying you anyway. And then you say, "OK, we will work something out."
If you really mean that, I sure hope you never have children. Because if you do, you are going to raise yourself a couple of serial killers.