You can trust people. It's just hard to do in a place where you cannot speak to them face to face. Things like this happen. Trust yourself first, the rest will fall into place as it comes along.
Sometimes when you bend over to pick a rose you might have to touch a thorn or two. It's called life.
Sorry to say this, Dave, but I think you can see now why I've said from early on what kind of person teejay is -- not terribly bright, but very interested in stirring up trouble over issues that everyone else agrees should be dead. I have no idea why he likes to stir up trouble, but he does it regularly. In my book that's a lot worse than a mere twit.