Hey Chris (Black Sheep) - I've almost finished "The Gentile Times Reconsidered." It has been a good read to get some perspective. I want you to know that my experience with the JW's has been exactly as you described, and I have changed my approach with them since I started the study several months ago. Some of the things I had brought up to my conductor, like 587 or even Rutherford's Cadillacs (I only posted that recently b/c I was personally wondering about it), were things I brought up a long time ago when I was more naive & didn't understand the JW's mentality. My current approach is to stick with your advice. I'm not planning to show him anything I am reading because I have already made that mistake & have seen how he reacts. With that in mind, we are going to have our next study in a few days to discuss 1914. Here is what I am thinking, and a concern I was wondering if you could comment on:
1. As you suggested, I can ask him to show me what is wrong with the historical evidence for Nebuchadnezzar's reign beginning in 605.
2. Here is my fear. I am afraid he will say that since the "Bible clearly teaches" the WT "70 years" interpretation, we must choose which takes precedence: "God's word" or the potentially fallible historical reckoning of men - even if the evidence is overwhelming, there is always the slight possibility that men are misunderstanding the evidence, or something could be uncovered that debunks the current understanding.
3. Of course, "The Gentile Times Reconsidered" addresses the fact that the "70 years" in the Bible could be interpreted differently from how the WT interprets it, so there may not be any conflict between "God's word" and the historical record. However, by that point we will have have strayed. We will have shifted from him checking the evidence for himself and entered a discussion of "interpretation" of the "70 years" which could be a disaster - mainly because of the exhausting, slippery bullying tactics the JW's are good at when it comes to "interpretation."
Can you offer some advice? Should I tell him I am aware of other possible interpretations of the 70 years, or could that be too distracting or trigger the "opposer of WT" sensitivity?