No idea how old the kids are, that said; please let them know there is no urgency to get baptized. God will be ready whenever they are. Jesus was 30 after all. Who can be a greater example for their commitment.
A Lurker taking a step out of the shadows
by AlmightyDog 44 Replies latest jw friends
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cantleave
Welcome. Keep reading, keep thinking and keep doing the right things for your family.
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VampireDCLXV
Welcome AlmightyDog!
An analogy we commonly use around here is the red pill/blue pill thing from the movie "The Matrix". (You've seen it, right? If not, it's recommended viewing!) Now that you've taken the red pill, there's no going back, is there? There is no more believing that the Matrix doesn't exist. Follow the white rabbit and see how deep the hole goes...
V665
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mamalove
Hello and Welcome. My heart goes out to you. I don't have any good advice, you have gotten a ton of that already. The only thing I can say is be a super fabulous husband. Don't do anything she can harp on and attribute your doubts to that. Hard I know, no one is perfect.
The rest is going to be patience and becoming an expert planter of seeds, but the right kind. What about getting her to think about the flood, read that story to your kids maybe and ask some questions about that. There are some great threads on this board about the flood.
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Lieu
Hi there and welcome!
I won't give you any advice, because frankly, I don't believe there is any to give. Each situation is different and some are worse than others. Your wife, just as we were, is like a junkie. No amount of hinting, nudging etc. will change her mind. Like a junkie, something has to click within her in order for her to reflect on her position. If she's not ready for that yet, you won't be able to make her be ready ... push too hard or too soon, she'll hit the pipe harder. The KH & JW is her 'comfort' her 'be all-end all'.
Its soooo like being a drug addict. One will get help only when one is ready.
You keep on doing what you are doing. Read, check into things, etc.
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FlyingHighNow
Welcome. Patience and subtlety is the best route. Saying the tiniest things and planting seeds here and there. Asking a well placed rhetorical question.
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NVR2L8
AlmightyD,
Your story soundS exactly like mine and your wife is reacting the same way as my wife. I remember when I posted my story a few weeks back several posters told me to be the best husband I can be...as Mamalove states above here. After a long period of silence, we have started to talk and laugh again. When I was active my wife often accused me of talking down to her and often being in a bad mood. Since I am out she noticed that I no longer have mood swings and I am more relaxed and happy. I no longer feel the urge to reajust anyone who doesn't perfectly live according to WT code of conduct. So AD give it time and keep the hope that your wife will figure it out so your whole familiy can enjoy a normal and happy life.
NVR2L8
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FlyingHighNow
This is the best article I've read on the subject of getting loved ones and friends out of the org:
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flipper
ALMIGHTY DOG- I agree with Flying High Now that " patience and subtelty " is the best route- especially in the situation you are in. By drooping off little hints as she said , in time it may get your wife to think. I highly advise you to read Steve Hassan's books as soon as you get a chance , it will help you understand WHY your JW relatives are so mind controlled and act like they do. And it will help you understand how the WT society was able to control you and ALL of us !
It's great to have you here ! Hang in there. You have a long haul. I know it's tough. Don't rush things with your wife- slow and steady wins the race
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Ding
Welcome!
