Attend new congregation for one month (go to ALL the meeting with WT studied in brilliant colours etc.)
Request reinstatement
We expect that to be denied
Continue for two more months
Request reinstatement again
IF we are accepted back, attend for one to two months and start the fade.
SIZEMIK SAID: I have followed a number of your threads and have a reasonable idea of your situation.
My first concern is that you may not get the re-instatement your looking for in that time-frame. As you probably know, the D/F BOE will be consulted and this may delay things for you considerably . . . you may have to wait a year, maybe longer. I don't wish to be discouraging, only to inquire if you are prepared for this.
I have to agree with Sizemik. Reinstatement will not likely happen that quickly. [In fact, I'd consider it a miracle if it happens in less than a year.]
You do realize that the ORIGINAL committee is who makes the decision even if you have moved to a different congregation. The new congregation's elders can make a recommendation for your reinstatement to the original committee, but the committee that disfellowshipped you still has the final say. If they choose to take the "hard line" against you based on the issue that you were involved in collusion (planning to put your spouse away and marry another person's spouse), you will be waiting "many months, a year or even longer" for reinstatement. Consider the followng quotes from the (secret) Elders' Book:
SHEPHERD THE FLOCK 2010 -- Page 119
3. The committee should be careful to allow sufficient
time, perhaps many months, a year, or even
longer, for the disfellowshipped person to prove that
his profession of repentance is genuine. (od p. 156j
it-2 p. 771) The committee should be especially cautious
in some cases. For instance, the wrongdoer
may have been deceptive, may have secretly practiced
wrongdoing over a long period of time, or may
have been repeatedly dealt with judicially in the past
for the same or other wrongdoing. Quickly reinstating
such a person may embolden others to commit
serious sin, as they may feel that little or no
discipline will be administered. Where there is evidence
of conspiracy between individuals to put away
their mates and marry each other, considerable time
should elapse for them to prove their repentance and
gain reinstatement.-w83 3/15 p. 29. [emphasis added by me]
SHEPHERDING THE FLOCK 2010 -- Page 120
7. If the disfellowshipped person has moved,
a local judicial committee will hear his request for
reinstatement where he is now attending meetings. 1£
those elders believe he should be reinstated, they will
give the judicial committee of the congregation that
disfellowshipped the person their recommendation.
They should not let the disfellowshipped one know
their recommendation; if the other committee does
not agree, knowing that would only cause him frustration.
The committee should merely tell him that
they must correspond with the elders where he was
disfellowshipped and that he will be informed of the
decision in due course.
8. The local judicial committee should not pressure
the original committee to reinstate the person.
The elders on the original committee may be aware
of important factors not apparent to others, so it
is usually best to respect their judgment. Likewise,
the original committee should carefully consider the
recommendation of the other committee. Sufficient
time may have passed, and the individual may have
made drastic changes that the elders on the original
committee have not observed. They should keep in
mind that the elders making the recommendation
have met the individual and have had opportunity to
observe his conduct.
