Those girls looking for a guy with a title has given the rest of us a bad name.
Or maybe it's an American thing. I never heard my JW female friends carrying on how a guy had to have a title.
What is your standing in a congregation if you're a man of 40 and never married?
by dgp 70 Replies latest watchtower beliefs
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tiffy122146
When I went to the Hall in the 70's we had a few single brothers and alot of single sister. The men were like a piece of raw meat in a lions den. My husband was a elder in the late 70's like around 79. They had more elder meetings over sister that were alone and the single brothers would not even give them the time of day. Many of the single sisters were looking for a free meal ticket, and most of them were as ugly as sin.
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No Room For George
Many of the single sisters were looking for a free meal ticket, and most of them were as ugly as sin.
LOL
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av8orntexas
Funny thing is, all those same sisters that didn't give you the time of day, they all end up in Judicial Committees somewhere down the road, or needing special assistance from the elders cuz their marriage is on the rocks. Hilarious to me. Reminds me of the old Biz Markie song, Vapors.
A two sisters comes to my mind. Except I honestly think one is Bi-Polar. Beautiful,nice. Her and her husband hadv a really rough patch about two years ago. She blow my phone up wanting to talk. I told her why not call your husband and tell him what you want to tell me ? If he doesn't know how you feel ? Alot of times she wanted phone sex and would spill alot of stuff she did prior to marriage. Really open my eyes up big time,lol
Needless to say she fell off the face of the earth when her and her husband got back together. Only calling to tell me she 'worried' for me because of how I felt about the meeting. Huh ?
She was Cybil if I ever saw her.
The other. Same thing. Told me her husband was buying porn,she was pregnant. Just blowing my phone up.
Both times I said,tell your husband. When both felt they were doing well in the congregation....it was they were worried about me.
I was like you all should worry about yourselves. To be Jehovahs people they both had ALOT of skeletons in the closet,lol
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av8orntexas
Broken Promises,I know it wasn't all sisters. I should say in my area and my experiences. I couldn't put my finger on any other reason why.
Well yeah I can. I was just starting out in the workforce. By putting Jehovah first, I was working part time. So I didn't always have the nicest car or much $$$ I was so sure sisters would see how I was putting the kingdokm first. That deserves a rip roaring HAHAHAHAHAHA. Boy I get a good laugh at that now.
For me it made me constantly question myself .
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No Room For George
I was like you all should worry about yourselves. To be Jehovahs people they both had ALOT of skeletons in the closet,lol
LOL, Ha!! So many like that. When I got appointed, and then started finding out what was going on in the congregation, I was flabbergasted!!!! I'm not saying the whole congregation, or even the majority of it was a cesspool, cuz it wasn't that bad. However, there was enough people with situations going on, or had situations in the past, where it left me scratching my head like, how'd I get into this mess? Thinking back, all the people in my age bracket that came of age in Da Troof, and most left the religion entirely. I might see them occasionally at a special talk, or convention, or mehmorial(I spelled it right), but they're doing that for their families, mostly their parents. Of the ones that stayed, like myself, plenty of them have the rockiest marriages. Terrible marriages, and my dad always told me that some of the worst marriages he's ever seen were in this religion. The ones with their noses in the air, Mr. and Mrs.Spiritual, often have the coldest relationships behind closed doors.
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Broken Promises
I blame the WTS for putting the importance on titles. I remember as a young girl thinking that the only "spiritual" man I should marry would be an elder or higher.
In talks about marriage, they would stress that if a bro had a title, it meant he was "more spiritual". So it was pounded into us that if we wanted a man worth marrying, he had to have some type of title. And if they didn't have one, why???
I was fortunate in that my Dad (who was an elder for many years) used to stress to me that just because a guy was a JW, didn't mean that that would be a guarantee to a successful marriage. As I got older, I realised that having a title didn't mean much either. It was the person inside that was important, not titles or any other artificial addition.
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av8orntexas
NRFG,
I wasn't raised a witness,but I really thought everyone was on the up. The first time I kinda had my eyes opened was when a friend of my mind who had gone to bethel told me all the stuff he and sisters did right before he went to bethel. I was shocked. Then all the stuff he did while at bethel. I'll never forget that conversation. His face and the way he talked. He was pretty much like "Where have you been ??"
At the time it happened,I would have never thought. People talked to me in the congregation. But looking back,I could see why I would have been told or included in certain things.
But I'll be honest. It's good they didn't. I probably would have been a really bad boy,lol
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Iamallcool
BP says As I got older, I realised that having a title didn't mean much either. It was the person inside that was important, not titles or any other artificial addition.
You got that right!
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Band on the Run
My cousin is one. Sisters must line up. HIs parents had a bitter JW divorce. The father was a severe alcoholic who kept cheating on my aunt. All he did was show up and attending meetings for 3 mos. and voila forgiveness from WTBTS. She was counselled not to divorce him. Altho he was a printer with Bethel training, he did not contribute any child support. Voila. three months.
If she walked out, she would have been disfellowshipped forever no matter what she did in repentance.
He is a severe diabetic with serious health problem. The abuse made him a momma's boy and I was a momma's girl b/c of abuse.
The sisters must be so annoyed seeing a live one. He was very bright. D. would have done well with a college ed. , specially with Diabetes.
Witnesses would have nothing to do with them b.c of his father. His father actually travelled far to his KH to rebuke him publicly. There is nothing wrong with my cousin and everything wrong with uncle.
Very sad. He would have made a good family man.