by Intel 109 Replies latest watchtower beliefs
- Why should others pay for your freedom?
- If you don't believe it, sacrifice yourself for your familys sake
- THEY (your family) will suffer for years to come because of you....
Don't let them get you down.
I DA'd almost 7 years ago and my life is so much better than when I was a JW.
Be proud of yourself --- it is the hardest thing to do (imo), to walk away knowing that you are losing parents, siblings, cousins, all your family. Been there, did it.
Others are urging you to remember you have the right to see your child. Well, you have the right to raise your child! You may be numb right now, I don't know. I would only advise that you see a lawyer as soon as possible re your parental rights to custody and divorce proceedings. She is probably getting advice already.
Will be thinking of you,,, in solidarity!
tal
tal, I'm going to send you a PM.
I am sorry to hear your wife left with your child. This religion is so devisive. It's infuriating.
Greetings,
You are a true hero of Conanic, If there is such a word, proportions, and hope you maintain contact with your daughter, you have done the best thing that is possible and to hell with the twats at the jehovahs witnesses congregations for they are the true evil ones!!!!!
Best Regards,
Star Tiger
Thank you all for your kind words! I really need that right now. I will kind of use this as some kind of "Notebook" or Dairy
Intel:
What is your next move regarding your daughter? Did you own your home - share a mortgage, are you legally separated or will be??
Has your wife contacted you yet? Priority would be to visit a lawyer and find out what your plan of action would be- after you speak with your wife that is, to find out what is going on in her head - as many will counsel her on how she is to deal with you trying to convince you to return - failing that, it will be all out war, with your wife in the middle and her trying to please the relatives... especially since you have most of your family in. This freedom has just begun. for you .. there will be twists in the road to make you feel guilty.. hateful to even think that way, but life is what it is..
Now that you have had a few days to think, perhaps this has already occured to you. At first, the elation of freedom is a great feeling, then reality sets in with a wife and child and home to deal with
All the best in your quest for a new life
I don't even think that you will ever come back or that a future Judicial Committee will accept you back into the Org."
I've got a major problem with the latter half of this statement! How can a JC never accept you back into the org when Christ's sacrifice covers all sins? They've got a heck of a nerve!
Moshe is still spouting his same old tired "doormat" doctrine...not even apparently aware that people come in all shapes and sizes. One size does not fit all.
I stand corrected on the elder showdown. Most people get tired of being a doormat for JWs, ie, humiliated, the cold shoulder, etc,, then after a couple years they crack and they want some R-E-S-P-E-C-T. I am learning all the time just how much abuse people are willing to take from the WT org- if this was anything but JW shunning- the public might call this disfunctional codepenency - I never dreamed there are faders who will let JW family humiliate them for seven or more years- it's an open-ended contract, as they will never get all their family to quit the KH, so the fade must go on, until death do we part.
-"Codependency, by definition, means making the relationship more important to you than you are to yourself," -- "It's kind of a weird phrase, and it doesn't sound like it means a one-sided relationship. But that's what it is. It means you're trying to make the relationship work with someone else who's not,--"
Ultimately, the faders who let other JWs treat them like a doormat are only hurting themselves, by not demanding respect and allowing others to abuse them in the name of God.
Even a school child knows what needs to be done with JW bullies- stand up and speak out against WT abuse, shunning and bullying.
INTEL- Lots of great comments to you . Nothing I can add that hasn't been said - just hang in there and I wish you the best ! I left cold turkey over 7 years ago, never went back. All of my family were mostly JW's as well. Had very little support, but in time things do get better. Even some of my JW relatives have softened their stances towards me in time. Just stay close to good friends who show you unconditional acceptance and love. You need that support right now. And of course, we will be here for you as well. Take care, Peace out, Mr. Flipper
