In another thread I wrote: “I didn't left the JW's and don't plan to do so. Can't see what good it would do for me. It hasn't done much good for many on this board either. This doesn't mean I criticize anybody for his decision, it's only a conclusion.”
Mad Sweeney asked me how I come to this opinion and encouraged me to open a new thread about it. So, here we are.
When I would decide to disassociate from JWs, the consequences would be quite clear. I would lose my relationship with family and friends. Maybe even contact. The price to pay would be not only high for me, my beloved family and friends would suffer due to my decision too. Some of them more then they could bear.
Further consequences could be necessity to relocate, depression, counseling and more.
When I look at what I would gain leaving JWs, it appears to me not a quarter as good than the losses I would suffer. Therefore I will do what is best for me, namely stay a JW.
When reading some posts on this board, I’m getting the strong impression some people which left the JWs would be better off if they didn’t (at least not now). And some others give everyone new here the advice “get out out out, now now now” regardless of the personal situation of the individual. The hate for the WTS seems to be bigger than the concern for the troubled person.
My advice would be:
Consider careful which decision will be the best for you. Make a list with all pro and cons. Weight every entry. Put them in the pair of balances. Examine which side outweighs the other. Do what is best for you.
P.S.: Hate to write in English language.