Living A Lie (page 5)

Pathofthorns

Hi MB

** H U G S **

I'll talk to you in about 20 minutes if you're around.

Path

peaceloveharmony

hi moodyblue-

here is a big hug from me too- (((((((((MOODYBLUE))))))))

i think you should read the thread "are you EX's still christian" if you haven't already.

i also just have a few more suggestions for you:

find out what spirituality means to you--not what the borg says it should be.

learn about other religions. this one helped me a lot. after i learned about other religions it put the jehovah's witnesses into perspective for me.

know yourself and learn to love yourself! i'm 25 and i think that from the age of 18-23 i did the most growing. i learned who i am and that i control my life. i'm still learning and even when i'm 60 i'll still be learning more about myself. it is a life-long process.

trust yourself.

just my two cents

love harmony

thinker

Dear Moodyblue,
I don't know your exact situation, so I'll just tell you some things that have worked for me in times of crisis.
I'll spend some time alone, ususally in a natural setting; to claer my head. If you can't get alot of time by yourself then maybe an hour or two in a park would do. Next, I write out my options and lsit two columns, pro and con. I find this very helpful to stop all the "what if's" from swirling around my head.
You DO have options! None may be very inviting right now, but time changes everything.
Get some time to yourself, write down your choices and think it through. And keep coming here for the advice and comfort of others.

thinker

happytobefree

You are further along that you think. You are in my prayers.

Happy to be Free (MeP

amicus

I've attempted suicide twice

MoodyBlue,
I'll quit clowning around. You got my attention. I'm sorry, sometimes I'm just a goof.
You need to be able to express how you feel. We want to know what you are feeling. You may be offered good, bad or no advice on this board. That's not really important. What is important is that you know that you are welcome here. Any time, and in any mood. Just think of us as your virtual family and know that we'll accept you any way you are.
Your big bro,
amicus

RedhorseWoman

Moody, it sounds as if you HAVE made a decision for the moment. You may not consider it to be one, but it is. No matter why you are staying in the situation you are presently in, it is your decision nonetheless.

Now what you need to do is to learn to like yourself, and to make changes that are for YOU. You cannot change Mr. Blue. You can make suggestions, and you can point out obvious truths....but you cannot change him....he must do that himself.

The suggestion given about finding low cost...or free...therapy is a good one. Almost every community has a mental health clinic, and most of them have some excellent counselors. Also, many hospitals have free or low-cost mental health clinics. Make a few calls.

I know that things seem difficult, if not impossible, when you look at the whole picture. Break it down into manageable parts. What can you do today without feeling overwhelmed? And when you accomplish something...no matter how small....reward yourself. It doesn't take money to do so. Perhaps a warm, scented bath; or a favorite book you've been meaning to read. Do something that makes you feel good.

In the meantime, vent as much as you need to. There are a lot of good people here with many perspectives. Hopefully, something will click for you. ****HUGS****

Prisca

I haven't said anything until now because the others have pretty well expressed how I feel too.

You are in a spot that many of us have been in at some point in our lives. Believe me, you may feel the world's weight upon your shoulders, yet as you begin to sort out your real wants and needs, the path ahead of you will definately become better defined.

Take it slow, don't expect miracles to happen overnight, and always remember to BELIEVE IN YOUR SELF!!

We're all here for you MoodyBlue

larc

Dear MoodyBlue,

I would remember the Serenity Prayer, "God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I can not change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference." The tough part is having the wisdom to know the difference.

mommy

Hey moodyblue:)
Doesn't all this attention show how much you are loved?
I am glad your friend led you to this sight he is a very smart cookie. You are free to discuss ANY of your thoughts here, and can be guaranteed to recieve honest opinions from all. That is the great part of this sight, there are so many people here that have walked down different paths. So there are a lot of different viewpoints of this world.
Belief it or not, in the future you will look back at this point in your life and be able to discuss with someone else how you made it through.:) I have faith in this.
I too have been where you are at. So I know the loneliness, and doubts that must be going through your head. My biggest obstacle was to love myself, the rest comes after that.A pros and cons list helps as well even to establish "why you are so special" Make sure you write down ALL of our names on the pros side:) And when you start on the cons(things you don't like about yourself) make a side note of how you can change this, then work on it.
Life is not easy, there are no quick answers. But know and have faith in those that have been there that "this too shall pass"
I love you for having the courage to post and ask for help, and I can tell you area very caring individual.Thank you for allowing us to enter your life:)
wendy
ps feel free to email me if you want

thinkers wife

Dear Moody Blue,
I truly believe the suggestions to get counseling are good ones. I know that you have tried it in the past and it has worked for you. Do make the calls and find out about no or low cost counseling this is what I did.
And amazingly I couldn't believe the number of JW's I saw coming in and out of there. And this was in a very country small area in WV. I just couldn't get over it.
Also in your one post, you mentioned the many ways you are feeling, personally, not religiously I believe it was the last post on the previous page of this post. (the one where you were lying in bed looking at your husband) Have you considered sharing these feelings with him? I don't possibly see how he could not respond to those thoughts and feelings.
TW

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