LMAO!! MagW. .....
You can borrow my Rum Anytime!!!!!
I used to BUY "stuff" for those helping me.........
Don't be surprised if you get a call from that "woman" saying her cats are not sleeping right since you took care of them..............
Having a huge disagreement over a very petty matter. HELP!!
by Magwitch 44 Replies latest jw friends
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nugget
I personally wouldn't have taken anything without permission but conversely if anyone had taken a bottle of wine whilst looking after my pets I wouldn't have minded but then I don't have expensive alcohol lying around at home. Apparently there is a bottle of nice wine hubby is keeping for a special occasion but even that isn't worth hundreds.
If she is touchy about things being removed then perhaps she should get a nice gift for the people looking after her pets whilst she is away or pay them a small fee making it a business arrangement.
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Magwitch
Charlie - You make me laugh!!
Think About It and Nugget - You always have good common sense - thank you!
Cantona - your following comment really struck me -
I wouldn't have thought your best friend would have minded.
Breakfast of Champions - thank you for your input - I am realizing that this may be offensive to many people.
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Magwitch
Many, many thanks for all who weighed in - I so appreciate every comment. This stupid incident has been such a thorn in the side. I am heading out on vacation and will not be checking in until Tuesday, but would love to read more responses.
HAPPY THANKSGIVING TO ALL OF YOU!
LOVE,
MAGWITCH
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AGuest
I think it depends on whether the person actually SAYS "Help yourself to whatever you want/need," dear Magwitch (peace to you!). Some people are very possessive with their stuff/things and any "taking" without prior consent is considered an affront. Some have slight to major OCD, so that even MOVING an item is a major "transgression".
I personally think that you have to know the person... and perhaps well... to do what you did; otherwise, you risk having the kind the response you received. At the same time, I think the lady should get over it - it was not your INTENTION to steal and you did replace the rum.
What to do? Get another bottle of rum (or even two)... and take 'em over. Tell her that you are TRULY sorry for having taking advantage, if you did, and want to make up for it, that you don't want this to stand in the way of what could be a pretty good friendship. If she isn't home, write a nice note to that effect and leave it with the rum (in a safe place, of course). Or... a fruit basket... you know, something to show you "come in peace."
Then let the "cards" fall where they may. If she gets it, she'll get over it and you two will be friends again. If she doesn't... well, you tried and so YOUR conscience should be clear.
But, bottom line: you made a move that caused this "rip," and so it's upon you, first, to try and "repair" it.
I hope that helps and, again, peace to you!
A slave of Christ,
SA
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Band on the Run
Frankly, were all the liquor stores closed and this was an emergency rum? I would be highly insulted if someone borrowed liquor. It is not cheap. Where I live now it is not easy to obtain. Could you have called her on her cell and ask permission? I feel the owner has the right to not let her private things be disturbed. I would be in deep trouble in two very different communities in which I have lived. The bottom line for me is not the rum. Your sitting prob.is far more valuable. Her home is not the liquor store or distribution point.
A bottle of rum is a silly thing to argue over. In my view, you should not have touched it without permission. But should your name be tarnished? It is a value judgment call. I find it odd but I can also see it being acceptable. What you did was not outlandish? If she is so upset, she should have set up ground rules concerning the rum. A two minute conversation should suffice.
A gf of mine was not invited when her closest friend remarried on a cruise ship. The children of the groom were opposed to the marriage and the cruise was a bone to throw to them. I would want all my friends and family present. On the other hand, I can see a multiple marriage and family situation requiring some extra negotiation and concerns. My gf was deeply hurt. She was on the prior honeymoon. I can see both sides.
If your friend carries on too much about what you did, it will benefit you. I had a blow up in law school with one of my closest gfs. She was saying demeaning things about me behind my back. Several people warned me. She entertained on a large scale to spread venom about me. I refused to discuss the situation. I told people we were very close and only a few people knew the details. I was very sad. Within a few weeks, I received so many calls complimenting me. There was no shortage of anonymous callers revealing all my friends' indiscretions.
The rum is unimportant. Handling a disagreement is the actual subject. It hurts!
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wannabefree
I think it was wrong to act presumptuously and take something that did not belong to you without permission whether you were planning on replacing it or not.
On the other hand, I think your friend overreacted.
I wouldn't do it unless there was a "help yourself" thrown in by the homeowner ... however, if a good friend "borrowed" something while taking care of my home, depending on the circumstances I may feel a little put off but would most likely respond with a "no problem".
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rebel8
If I was the home owner I would feel a bit violated because that was not the agreement.
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Thor
Hi Magwitch!
I don't know it all seems a little silly to me unless it was special or really expensive rum/wine. You would have to trust someone at least to a degree to have them take care of their home and animals for so long. I hope your BF will agree to disagree and let it go.
I hope you had a great vacation!!
Love, Mrs Thor
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Cagefighter
Are you in England? Is "borrowing" alcohol common? This is kind of funny.
It is a trust thing and while it might not bother some people it might bother others. I would consider it out of line to "borrow" something with out asking or being offered to "make myself at home" at first. Even then, I would consider that to me, taking a crap or watching some TV, not raiding the liqour cabinet.
It's kind of like kissing your best friend's wife. He might be into it or he might not, either way best to find out by asking than the other way.
-Cage