Having a huge disagreement over a very petty matter. HELP!! (page 4)

Black Sheep

That reminds me of a story I heard from a small town in New Zealand.

The family was going away for a holiday and the son asked if he should lock the door now?

"Heaven's no. What if the neighbors need something?"

OUTLAW

Looking after someones cat..

Doesn`t mean you can drink their Liquor and Try On their Underwear..

It means your there to look after the cat..

Stay out of the Liquor Cabinate and Underwear Drawer..

....................... ...OUTLAW

Magwitch, I don't understand why you & your best friend are coming to blows over this. I think that what you did is probably only acceptable if you are really close to a person. Like if I'm at my sister's house & I see some food or a dvd that interests me then I will take it & tell her about it later. Aside from opening the fridge or the pantry for food I would not take anything that wasn't out in plain sight, even from her. When you have that kind of relationship, you dont even have to write a note. And I know now that I am stereotyping, but, the neighbor is a 35 year old woman, & she has 4 flippin cats! I'd be surprised if she wasn't persnickety!

sherah

My siblings and I 'borrow' from each other all of the time but I would never take the same liberties with anyone else. Even if I was doing them a favor. In my experience, when folks encourage you to 'help yourself' they're referring to food. Not booze, clothing and the contents of medicine cabinets,LOL.

skeeter1

I have had to hire a pet sitter. It's $15 a visit. So, if I go out of town and want the dogs walked 3 times a day . . . that's $45 a day.

I assume you are doin this for free? Cats at $15 a visit - likely one visit a day . . . . and she should have paid you with the wine.

But, this is a single, 35 year old woman with multiple cats and with a very unsharing/harm done attitude. Think any man is going to want to be near her in the future? Need I say more?

Pet sit for dog owners.

Skeeter

SixofNine

Does she perchance wear a patch over one eye and often say things like "arrrrghhh, matey" or "shiver me timbers"?

pm me if the answer would reveal too much personal info about your friend, but I think I may have the answer as to why she reacted the way she did.

Botzwana

I would have a meltdown too. Wifey and I are going to paint our bedroom. Have a handyman do it. I am going to sit there and watch him all day. Why? I have thousands of DVD´s and do not want him to help himself.

Scully

I wouldn't have just left a note for them to find when they got home. I would have simply replaced the part bottle with a full one (and perhaps one the next size up) of the same brand, with a gift ribbon on it and a note saying something like "Your rum saved my recipe the other night - my guest was thrilled with the Bananas Foster! Sorry for dipping into your private stock, but hope this makes up for it. Thanks again for rescuing my dinner party!"

It's basically saying the same thing - I took your rum - but replacing it with a full bottle, making it all gifty and special with a lovely thank you note before they return home might be better received than an empty spot in their cupboard/on the shelf with an IOU.

The other thing that isn't clear is whether the rum was in plain view, or whether you had to go looking for it. If any searching was involved, it probably felt a bit more invasive and intrusive than if it was in plain sight.

Broken Promises

If it's upsetting your bestie so much, it's probably because she's now wondering all those times when she asked you to look after her place, if you took anything or went looking in her fridge or whatnot.

I think it's rude to take something of somebody's while they're away, even if you plan to replace it. Respect their personal space.

flipper

MAGWITCH- Without reading anyone elses's take , so it won't influence me I'll give my first intuition on it - I'll give you an honest answer in how I see it or would handle it. If I was previous friends with the " cat lady " and had developed a friendship over time ( several months with previous interaction ) then I'd probably feel more comfortable in knowing that she'd be O.K. with my borrowing some alcohol , or I'd ask first if she would mind indulging , or I would let her know she could indulge in some of my alcohol at my house if we had developed a rapport over time. If the " cat lady " knew you pretty well - I imagine it would not be an issue if you were to replace the alcohol.

However it's a different situation if it's a first time " babysitting " of the cats and you didn't know the lady before or she didn't know you much, if at all. When people aren't familiar with our habits or life that much and barely know us - I see where trying to assume she wouldn't get upset may be a miscalculation or not too wise of a move .

So I think it's a matter of knowing the person well enough to know they wouldn't mind sharing their alcohol with you. Some people get real possessive with their stuff , especially with unfamiliar people. Sorry you experienced this. Better luck next time ! Hang in there

Having a huge disagreement over a very petty matter. HELP!!