Well, my husband's worst fear has happened. He told his kids, ages 15 and 10 that he was coming to visit them over the holidays. His ex-wife limits his telephone contact to one call per week, so when he called them last week to arrange the specific days he would see them, his son told him that he got baptized back in September and would no longer be willing to see his father.
This came as a complete shock. Nobody has said a word about any of this and now almost three months have passed and he has only been told now that his son will no longer associate with him.
Then, to make is worse, his 10 year old daughter got on the phone and said that although she is not baptized, she is working towards it and so she has decided she won't see him anymore either.
They both told him that if he returns to the religion and gets reinstated, then they would be open to seeing him.
As you can imagine, he is devastated.
He spoke to both of the kids again a couple of days ago and he told them that this was a total shock to him and that it isn't right that he wasn't told his son's plans BEFORE it happened. He told them that he is well within his rights to fight this legally, but at the same time, he doesn't want to alienate them by forcing visitation. He made it clear how upset and also hurt he is, but both kids were firm in their resolve 'to do things Jehovah's way'.
He plans to write a letter to their mother and take her to task. Her allowing the kids to refuse visitation is contrary to their legal agreement but we feel it's best to confront HER about this - not the kids.
Anyway, that's what's happening around here these days.
And please keep in mind, these kids were fully indoctrinated by their father himself - he was VERY serious about their JW upbringing (brainwashing) and he blames himself for what's happened. HE trained them this way and now it's blowing up in his face :(