My mother used to get upset when people at doors would say "I hear your religion drives families apart." She denies it. She thinks it makes for strong families.
Untill you disagree and are shunned forever. This makes me so sad.
My Husband's Kids Have Cut Him Off
by headisspinning 33 Replies latest social family
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Aussie Oz
OH GOD!
He is living my worst nightmare. I have felt this coming for a couple of years. My ex limited access to me far beyond what was legal and i was so weak and broken i could not fight her. That changed 2 years ago when i fought like crazy to get full weekends and i have been working on them ever since.
My son is now 18 and i think he will get dunked but he has vowed to never shun me so we shall see. Daughter wants our real bad. she woke up at 10.
Lots can change in a kids development so they may change their minds.
But for now it is time for your husband to put his foot down, get a pitbull of a lawyer and take this as far as it needs. From the laws point of veiw thay wont get involved in the case of the 15 yr old but will for the younger one. I went to war for the younger one only becuae i had no leg to stand on with the older child (16 at the time) If he does nothing but back down he has lost them anyway. Better to lose them in the cross fire than to lay down like a dog. I was a dead dog, dont let him be one.
The 10 year old needs to be told by a counselor that she HAS NO CHOICE but to have visitation. Its a real hard hard thing to do and say to a kid i can tell you! I did it. It hurt, but it has to be.
Get mediation right NOW, get a lawyer right NOW.
He cannot alienate tham by forcing visitation. The JWs will force alienation. He does nothing, they are gone for sure, he fights he has a 50/50 chance of a win.
Pm me if you need to, this is so close to my nightmares its not funny.
OZ
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GLTirebiter
I feel sad for him, but even more so for the children. When an ex-spouse interferes with children having a normal relationship with their other parent, in the long run it hurts the children more than her intended target. Whether the interference is active ("Remember what they said about apostates at the last assembly?") or passive-aggressive ("If you don't really want to see him, that's okay honey!"), this is emotional abuse--what they call parental alienation syndrome.
With her appearing to be beyond the reach of common sense, reason and civil behavior, doing anuthing about this menas hiring a lawyer, probably going to mediation or the family court (several times), and dealing the time, hassle and EXPEN$E of doing all that. But if your husband does nothing, she gets her way by default. She knows this, and is using it to her advantage.
For the sake of the children as well as your husbands, I hope you can restore some semblance of a normal family relationship with the children.
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mamalove
This is awful! I am telling you from personal experience, your husband needs to get legal enforcement and continue to see his children. His son is brainwashed and loves his dad no doubt!
The ex is in contempt by violating the custodal agreement. This is a serious decision she made and will be imposed sanctions if you pursue it. Hang in there, and if you need some info for the courts, please PM me.