One thing I noticed that was said by an elder that I neglected to comment on before was that he knew of people who'd become 'apostates' and he said "they're all miserable". Really? All of them? How do you know? Do you keep in touch with all of them?
I was thinking, this is a lot like the abusive husband who hits his wife and says, "That's for trying to leave me! If you leave, you're going to be miserable!" So of course, it's better to stay and be abused further, right?
Either way, I don't know of many who would not find themselves just a little miserable if they spent decades of time, energy, money, maybe even risked their lives and then found out it was all for nothing. Tends to frak with your emotions a little. And even if you did continue to believe their teachings, would you really, truly be happy? I can't recall very many times of happiness in my 20+ years as a born-in. One thing I noticed in reading my journals from the past was that I rarely ever spoke about my religious beliefs or religious life. I was always writing about things that made me happy, things I was interested in. But most of the time, it wasn't about being a JW. Unless it was about the stress, the pressure, the gossip, the feelings of inadequacy and of trying to convince myself of something.
Hey, it's no picnic, but mostly that's because the abuse doesn't end if you're still stuck in the same orbit with JWs. I'd be far less miserable if I never had to see them again in life.
As always, this is a typical example of their m.o., as someone here wisely put it: create a problem, then present themselves as the solution.
--sd-7