Regarding EP---I really don't care what the history is. It was inappropriate---and who could even argue with it? The lord had spoken. It was an ignorant and abusive way to use this voice, and that is where the problem is. The lord said so! So regardless of history or whatever, a portion of the people will simply believe it because the lord had spoken. It's an incredibly manipulative tool, and the temptation to use it the way it was used must be great.
And even if she believed the trash she spewed, it was very evident that such talk was offensive to many of us. EP repeatedly challenged it, and your friend dug in. This was not motivated by love. Let's just say it was true for a moment. If love were the motivator, then calling someone an alcoholic on a public forum is not the end result. Now let's say it is not true (because although you will believe anything the lord says to this person, some of us need a bit more evidence anyway) then that certainly was not motivated by some Christian love.
In the end, what business was it of everyone here anyway? So you can pretend that the believers here are not as offensive, but I have seen and heard some pretty startling stuff. And perhaps the reason you are on the defense more is because you go into victim mode. None of you have ever been wrong, but you certainly yell about the wounds you have suffered, all the while doling out your own damage and supporting each other.
As to commenting on a group rather than individuals, well whatever. I see commonalities in all beleivers and that is what I comment on. I have watched a group of believers on this board become more and more extreme and support each other in it. Where it ends? I don't know. But it is not only fundies that are extreme.