I have been continuing my research and have a few more questions.
I have heard that a JW can not smoke, drink alcohol, have sex with anyone except the person they are married to and that they cannot say grace or god bless u.
you cannot smoke at all. period.
you can definitly drink with other people tho lol and you'll find out with a quickness that there is a LOT of drinking that goes on, at least in some areas.
you are right about the sex and you are right about the 'god bless you'. same goes for gesundheit(sp?) and any other variation.
Can any of u ex JW's tell me if the above are correct anc tell me some more about them please. Are u telling me that there is no prayer said before a meal to thank god for the meal??
there is always a prayer before meals. well supposed to be. in public that's always the case. you'll find that in private, that definitely changes. at least for younger people.
Also can u please tell me any other rules that are a must if i went ahead.
well, this won't apply to you per se lol, but men cannot have beards or goatees in the states.
they frown heavily on low cut tops and short skirts. fancy hairdos and it's a very controlling group in terms of how you look.
if you are doing a jw thing in casual clothes/work clothes, like cleaning at the district convention or circuit assembly, you cannot wear clothes with logos. patterns are fine i guess, logos are a no-no.
I dont know if i am 'under or getting under the spell' but i feel loved like i have not experienced before.
you are under the spell and it feels GREAT at first. sooner or later, you'll see the ugliness underneath. it's a very very very shallow organization.
you're age, looks, marital status and who you are connected to will determine how much love you continue to feel after becoming one. for people studying, they'll pour the love out.
single brothers and sisters over 30 have it rough, especially if they aren't very well connected and have a small social group.
kids from single moms are generally ignored, but kids whose dad is an elder/ministerial servant are known throughout their district.
the elderly are kinda left be, depending on how much pull and influence they've had throughout the years. i've seen quite a few older brothers and sisters that were essentially abandoned once they couldn't make meetings as often bc a mate had dimentia. very sad.
if you watch and observe congregations after meetings, you'll see the internal dynamics of that congregation. in my experience, they are all very clique-ish. just like school can be.
some will leave right after the meetings. those people are usually assumed to be "spiritually weak" and they might be. they might be having doubts, OR they might not be feeling the love from the hall anymore after their baptism.
