Awe shucks.
I'm just in the middle of making all of the mistakes you guys have already made. You know, talking to your elder friends about things and the conversation going WAY beyond where you intended. So I am fresh in the middle of the explanation phase of this.
My new stance is just to shut up and live. I don't feel like celebrating x-mas, and my kids birthday will probably just be us. So nothing obvious for them to come doen on me with, unless I screw it up!
Which i most certainly will because I just can't seem to shut up.
Either way, I am searching for what actually works. I still have come to the conclusion it all boils down to the GB. Its the heart of everything.