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ABibleStudent

magotan - I've given myself six months (before the DC of this year) to get out. If I can get my car paid off by then, I will be gone.

Hi magotan, Paying off your car is the least of the issues that you will face in the future. What other goals do you have besides paying off your car? Where will you live? Do you want to maintain some type of relationship with your JW family and friends? How many new non-JW friends do you need to make to replace JW relationships that you will be leaving? What plans do you have for getting a better job or education?

Peace be with you and everyone who you love,

Robert

Fernando

Hey Magotan!

I imagine quite a few on JWN are delighted to see the strength, conviction and insight apparent in your post on faith issues above. You write well and express yourself well.

Yes, your family and current associates may take you for a fool. Clearly though you are not. You have simply been gifted to see through error from young. What a great start in life!

May you make some great friends on JWN, at college, at work and in the community.

May your strengths and insights continue to blossom and help make the world a better and less ignorant place.

Fernando

PS

It may not be relevant to your life's journey at this point, or in the future, however I do want to point out that religion lies when it says that faith and religion (belief) are the same thing. The Watchtower is not "a faith" - it is "a religion". There is no such concept as "faiths" (plural) in the scriptures followed by Christians, Jews or Muslims.

Faith is the wide opening of our spiritual eyes.

Religion is about (supremacist and often incompatible) clubs formed around rules, codes, doctrines, "special" knowledge and the traditions of men.

Faith emanates from God (as a "free gift").

Belief emanates from man.

magotan

I have a bit of a gameplan, but it has been an emotional see-saw for me for the past few weeks. I logically accept what's going on, but emotionally I'm still not quite there.

cofty

Welcome magotan.

I logically accept what's going on, but emotionally I'm still not quite there.

This is important. I usually know intuitively where I am heading quite a while before I get there. No need to rush things.

Wishing you well.

ABibleStudent

ABibleStudent - You are nineteen so make a plan to help yourself fade and start living the rest of your life. I would recommend that you read Steve Hassan's books (i.e., "Combatting Cult Mind Control", "Releasing the Bonds: Empowering People to Think for Themselves", and (his latest book) "Freedom of Mind: Helping Loved Ones Leave Controling People, Cults and Beliefs"), visit Steve Hassan's website , get a better education that will qualify you for a job that you love, make new non-JW friends, post about your feelings often on JWN, and ask for advice on JWN about fading. If you own a Kindle, you can purchase "Freedom of Mind" on Amazon.com as an e-book, so that family will not know that you are reading his books.

Hi Magotan, You seem like an intelligent and good person, who is feeling a lot of conflicting emotions. Sort things out emotionally first before setting goals to leave. To help you sort things out, please read at least one of Steve Hassan's books as I have written to you before to help you deal with your emotional turmoil before setting any time-table to fade/leave.

Peace be with you and everyone, who you love,

Robert

jamiebowers

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jgnat

If I recall, paying off a first car is a pretty big deal for a nineteen year old. Congratulations.

You are right to be worried about the emotional toll from exiting the Witnesses, and the potential consequences. It pays to start working on a new social network. My hope is that you hook up with a compassionate gay community that will help you through the ropes.

jgnat

Oh, and PS! Love your use of the word "hex"! It describes Witness taboos very well.

Fernando

Hey magotan!

Are you able to say what you are studying and what your career goals are?

For those of us not familiar with the education system in the USA can you help us better understand what "college" is and what qualification and career outcomes are possible?

(http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/College#United_States)

Best wishes

Fernando

perfect1

Fernando that is another conversation for another thread. May take a while for magotan to answer.

MAGOTAN. Its gonna be an effing emotional rollercoaster.

But you are on the right track. You can do it!

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