by Gojira_101 34 Replies latest jw friends
I would say HI... I would also let her know she is DF & you dont judge folks
I would even mention that your aware she is Gay!!!! & tell her your ordered NOT TO JUDGE
I still believe we have to make sure we are loving folks who ever ,what ever, they are.
You see I believe there is NO ONE WITHOUT SIN!!!!!Yep me included in the ALL
Thats why I asked Jesus Christ to guide lead & direct me.
Honestly tell her that you were just thinking about her and remembering [insert story here]. Don't bring up anything JW, unless it's to admit that you're no longer attending.
Gojira_101: So my dilemma right now is, should I reach out to her?
The fact that you're even asking this question shows that you still have the JW mindset.
I understand, it takes time to shed that way of thinking. Someone on JWN posted that a therapist said it takes about a month for every year someone has been in an abusive relationship for them to get over it. (Who knows, I may just be repeating an urban legend).
At any rate, it makes sense that it takes time to learn to think for ourselves. The longer we were under the influence of JW mind-control the longer it will take for us to trust our own heart and mind. (Jeremiah 17:9 ... can you still hear it?).
If you love your friend, just reach out to her. You do NOT need anyone's permission to be real.
Reach out to her as a person, not as a label, be it "DF'd," "Lesbian" or whatever.
Probably she would LOVE to hear from you and LOVE to know that you care for her for WHO she is, not WHAT she (pretends to) believe.
Keep us posted!
00DAD
GOJIRA- You should reach out to her as an unconditional friend and be there for her yes indeed. What she's gone through in being kicked out of the organization is indeed very painful - she needs all the support and REAL friendships she can find right now
You never explain why you're torn?
I don't understand if you're no longer under the grips of the WTS, why even ask (WTS does that to people).
What would a loving person do, no matter what the outcome? Apologizing also goes a long way.........
The way I see it is that you are both out of the organisation now, albeit for different reasons. Why should a religion that you are no longer part of intrude into your friendship?
My advice is to just reach out to your friend and I would be very surprised if she isn't absolutely delighted to hear from you. All you need to do is ask her if she is OK and let her know how you are, then take it from there. What harm can it do?
Hi Gojira_101, At least say hi to her and that you were thinking about her on Facebook. Let her tell you what she wants to tell you.
Before telling her your feelings, I would suggest let her tell you her feelings about the WTBTS and her future plans and only do that in emails and phone calls and not on Facebook.
Peace be with you and everyone, who you love,
Robert
It's never a bad idea to reach out to a friend!
Even if she is a JW sympathizer or still believes, you are not commiting any wrongdoing by contacting her. It's her choice to react. You would be doing the right thing.
I only have one friend from inside the JWs. We are both out now. Although we don't sit around obsessing about what happened to us in the organization, it's comforting to know that she understands where I've come from more than anyone ever could. I love having that!
The law was given to the elders of the congregation in order to teach to the masses. Where does it say to remove members of the congregation? People attend a congregation in order to learn, not to be judged. If one responsible for the congregation is sinning, how can they teach in hypocracy? They must be removed.
Reach out to any person in love and do not judge them, this is law given by Christ. Only those in authority can judge. No human upon the earth can judge, nor forgive unless the law is passed on to them in authority.
the slave of JAH and of Christ
Uh yah
to the OP: you've gotten some good advice on your dilemma. I hope it all works out for the better for you.
