I would dearly love to know what the real "Jesus" actually taught, and believed, and encouraged his followers to do and to think.
The problem is we have nothing we can rely on 100%, or anything close to that in fact, as being his words. Some even posit that there was not a single "Jesus" but that the figure presented to us in the Gospels is a composite of several itinerant preachers of the early years of the 1st Century.
It is my gut feeling that there was a charismatic young man who taught a revolutionary theology when compared with the Judaism of the day, and it is my gut feeling that some of his words and teaching have survived within the Gospels and elsewhere, even in non-canonical works.
What we do know for sure is that the Gospels are mainly written with the agenda of furthering the cult of Christ (Jesus), and therefore are embellished and fictionalised to a great degree.
I agree with you that what still comed across firmly, despite the above, is the love he had, and his wish that all should be as gentle and compassionate as he.