My Sparky and Snakey came over once and put the loyalty questions: that was after I stepped down, went away for a month and then just never went to a meeting again - a rapid fade. I'd been missing for about three months by the time they came around and put their questions: I went around and around in circles and ended up not answering: they knew it and Snakey told me so. He was trying to strike, but I kept dodging - do you remember the red bellied black snake that just missed Steve Irwin's face? That was me and my Snakey.
Later my Sparky phoned up and asked if he and Snakey could come around again. I said sure, be nice to see you but I have nothing religious to discuss.
That was the end of it. I never heard from them again.
Years later I came in contact with an elder who know who I was: I told him I didn't believe in God. He said he could understand how that made it hard to accept the FDS, Watchtower Society etc. I agreed. It was all fairly amicable and nothing bad happened.
I've been clear of them ever since.
Good luck. But, really, once you're past the stage you're at and down the track a couple of years, I'm not sure what difference it makes if you're DA, DF or just faded to pale. Family etc will treat you however they choose to and many tend toward shunning anyone not going along with it all.
