Husband has joined me in being inactive.

by Julia Orwell 43 Replies latest jw friends

  • brainmelt
    brainmelt

    Hey, that's great. Best just to let him figure out things himself, don't pressure him or question him, just let him do what he feels and make plans to do fun things at the weekend.

    My husband seems to be doing similar to yours - still says he believes its the truth yet says that he doesn't know if God exists or not. He says that he plans to go to meetings on his own and will take the children on Sundays but he rarely ever goes, last Sunday was my last meeting and he hasn't been back since either, he never goes in field ministry and makes excuses to do something else and declined a shepherding visit last week. He is confused, poor soul but I do have good hopes that he will stop soon too because he doesn't have the motivation to continue on his own.

    It makes it so much easier for you both that your families aren't in the 'truth' so they'll be a good support for you both :) x

  • Chariklo
    Chariklo

    Good news, Julia!

    Relax and enjoy the new freedom!

  • DATA-DOG
    DATA-DOG

    Thats awesome! Can I come live with you guys? LOL!! I had the same thought as Brainmelt. For many men, the worst is to be interrogated about your feelings. He may not even know exactly what he feels right now. It took me years to sort through junk and accept TTATT.

    If he is content to be with you and skip meetings, great! He will ask questions and make comments soon enough I imagine. Seriously, good for you.

    DD

  • Fernando
    Fernando

    Hallelujah - now he can spend more time exploring alternative realities.

    What is his level of interest in faith and spirituality (not religiosity)?

  • jgnat
    jgnat

    Congratulations! My hubby is in the same boat. I suspect there is some work up ahead, because he hasn't connected his doing (avoiding the hall) to what he believes. I fear if he doesn't work this out he could flip back in at any moment.

  • Ding
    Ding

    Julia, I think you're wise not to press him as to why he's decided to miss meetings.

    At some point he will probably voice it.

    For now, don't say or do anything that might push him back in.

  • ABibleStudent
    ABibleStudent

    Great news Julia Orwell! Talk to him an find out what non-JW things he likes to do and start making plans to show him how wonderful life is. If he starts expressing doubts ask him simple qustions to help him to start to critically think again and maybe suggest using the internet to do more research.

    Peace be with you and everyone, who you love,

    Robert

  • ldrnomo
    ldrnomo

    I don't feel comfortable in asking him why he doesn't go to meetings anymore for some reason, or find out what he believes and if the things I've told him bout

    ttatt influenced his decision.

    Your right in not saying anything to him because it might make him pull back and start up again.

    Many suffer from guilt when they stop going and bringing it up may increase his guilt and make him start going again

  • wha happened?
    wha happened?

    witnessing gave people the false impression they were helping others. If that desire creeps up, there's planty of places and causes, (non religious), that are in need of volunteers. The sincerity of these people will rub off on him

  • Oubliette
    Oubliette

    Fantastic!

    I'm happy for you both.

    He'll probably open up to you when he's ready.

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