Husband has joined me in being inactive. (page 4)

flipper

JULIA- This is fantastic ! Hopefully he'll just keep enjoying " chilling " with you and doing activities away from the JW mindset. It sounds like he has a real justice streak in him and he was offended in how aggressive the elders dealt with you. That is really a good thing. So his mind will gradually be more open to seeing the incongruities within the WT Society. But LDRNOMO has great advice, don't push. Let him find these things out on his own or let him ask questions . If he goes to the occasional meeting- don't freak - it's part of the gradual awakening process for some. But this is really cool ! I'm happy for you. Good luck to you and him

Julia Orwell

Thanks :)

He's a decent guy who's always had a strong sense of right and wrong.

dissonance_resolved

Julia- That's great to hear! Between you and brain melt, it gives me hope. Unfortunately, my hubby has been circling the wagons and stoking up the fire of cognitive dissonance as I've tried to cut back. Hopefully we can follow in your footsteps soon.

Julia Orwell

I hope so too! I really do (((((hugs)))))

ÁrbolesdeArabia

Julia how would you describe the friends in the Kingdom Hall during your Tour de Kingdom Hall?

1. Were they good and loyal who checked up on all the widows, fatherless or motherless or kids living with their grandparents?

2. I remember how Witness kids with a parent showing doubts or with a disassociated or disfellowshiped parent, would receive the "stink eye' and were not allowed to join any of the Witness games (like Rudolf the Reindeer) or shunned until they quit attending Meetings too! This lack of love really hammered my conscience and I did my best to help but one person can only do so much when you have several families who need help.

3. The big Joy was to take these weak kids out in Field Service, no need for Camping Trips, normal activities a dual family might do with their kids, Field Service and a donut or Happy Meal is the Watchtower's answer to fill this void!

4. You seem like you helped other sisters during their time of need, how many of these sisters are checking up on you and paying back all the good you did for them? Did they flee from you once you decided to take a breather from the high pressure, mental pressure cooking pot this Organization of guilt does to us all?

5. Is this the most loving Organization in the World and "Where will you go? You learned the Truth from the Organization, so who else out there has the crystal pure springs of water you would find in some stream in the Yangtzee Valley in China?

Julia Orwell

I'll get back to you on those points Arboles as I'm cooking dinner. I'll say on 2 and three though, that yes, there were those who took the 'weak' kids under their wings and studied with them and took them witnessing. But not all the kids. A brother did take some teenage boys surfing and skateboarding regularly, but I can't think of any others off the top of my head.

Julia Orwell

My first congregation was pretty good though. There are others round here that are pretty dismal.

ÁrbolesdeArabia

Take your time, I am going to head to bed in a few minutes and listen to some nice Christian preachers, it's late where I am and I will catch your latest info when I wake up at 5am. Have a good day in Aussie, Sister and I am happy your husband is seeing things that don't make sense.

Take it easy on the guy, I know you will but this is a fragile time in his life now. You have more time seeing all the contradictions of the Organization, he is probably feeling the way I did two years ago, sick to my stomach and hurting because I did not want to believe almost everything I was taught over the last fifty-plus years was a lie! I will pray for your husband, please be gentle and slow with him, he is quite vulnerable right now. We can't rush these things or it all can back-fire in a bad way! He needs our help and support, you have to introduce him when he is ready to meet other people who have been down this path, Good Night Dear Sister!

Black Sheep

I was a drifted semi/totally brain damaged dis/believer for decades. I hope he isn't settling into that role. keep feeding his dissonance ... gently.

Softly, softly, catchee monkey

Julia Orwell

He left in about 2001 a few years after he was baptised but still believed deep down and went back 7 years later. I hope he's out for good this time. I reckon he needs something else to believe in, or the full TTATT.

Husband has joined me in being inactive.

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