Congratulations, Julia! I don't know about others, but I believe it takes about two years to clear all of the brainwashing and accept reality.
It sounds as though you're doing the right things the right way.
Husband has joined me in being inactive.
by Julia Orwell 43 Replies latest jw friends
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snare&racket
......and your life begins..... X
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LisaRose
That is excellent.
I think if most dubbies just stopped going to the meetings they would stop believing in the Watchtower in six months to a year. The weekly brainwashing session are the main reason people don't see the religion for what it is.
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straightshooter
That is great news. It is always good when you have a supporting partner.
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jam
Julia: Did you pray to Jehovah to open his eyes.LOL
Happy for you.
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problemaddict
Hey Auzzie,
Just a tiny word of caution on your post. It hit me after I read it a few times. In Mr Obriens comments, please see the highlighted portion of double talk. Technically remember that now-a-days, JW's somehow pasively chose to not be JW's, they aren't kicked out. it allows the religion to act with impugnity.
Mr T. O’BRIEN
— People are free to be Jehovah’s Witnesses, or if at any time they wish to discontinue for
whatever reason, that is a personal choice. If the person simply decides to become inactive and no longer
associate with Jehovah’s Witnesses, then they are just viewed as they were before they became one of
Jehovah’s Witnesses.
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problemaddict
Oh! And yes this is great news. i am working on the wifey, but those family ties are what are getting us.
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whathappened
Maybe he is like me and just cant go door to door preaching such preposterous things the Watchtower says.
Happy for you.
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Julia Orwell
He's even started to grow a beard- how much more non-JW can you get? Before he was a JW (he's only been in about 5-6 years) he always had a beard.
I think a big thing for him has been my non-JW family. My non-Jw mother is the most Christian person around, and has been very generous to my husband, as has my father. My brother comes around and helps with the gardening too-no JW ever offered that when we were sick!!
@ Jam: Interestingly, I did pray for hubby to be freed from JW- but I prayed to Jesus!
@ the men who commented: I sensed that he wouldn't like to discuss his feelings, and it's good to get your perspectives on that men don't like to be probed about their feelings. I volunteer mine to my husband; indeed, he knows when I'm holding something in and has me talk about it. He on the other hand, is a reserved sort, and he tells things in his own time.
Thanks all for the encouragement, and I hope those with spouses in can keep working on them. It's harder though if you've got family in: thank goodness over a decade of me praying for my family to 'come into the truth' didn't get answered!
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NewYork44M
You are at the beginning of a great adventure. Good luck to both of you and enjoy your Saturday mornings.