The Elders want to meet with me ... (Judicial Meeting) (page 4)

humbled

Surely they will let you in again. How can they not?

Wasanelder Once

Actually I wonder more what this says about you wanting back in? Are you out of your head?

That shows how loving they really are, making this meeting such a low priority for themselves. They don't care what they ar putting you through, they only care about themselves. It is laughable to think they have God's spirit upon them.

NeverKnew

wow.... why does this walking around neither in nor out sound like an earthly purgatory?

and they say they're not like the Catholics. smh

gingerbread

They'll meet with you either just before the C.O. visits or just after.

Be patient until then. Keep quite and keep up the appearance of humility. Look 'positive' when you attend the regular meetings at the hall. Highlight every page of any publication being discussed.

This religion has become all about numbers, procedures, rules and regulations. The elders are just following 'proper' procedure and following the directives from 'the branch.'

Unless one of the elders has something personal against you, this waiting game (and the reinstatement process) has nothing to do with you at all.

Tech49

I feel bad for you.

Here is exactly what's happening: Most recent instructions dictate that the Judicial Committee to whom your letter is addressed meet with you, promptly, to discuss your letter requesting re-instatement. That's the 'rules'. Regardless of how many letters have been submitted, the protocol should be the same every time.

Here is where things go sideways in a hurry: If "someone" doesnt want to address your letter, or thinks that you arent serious, or whatever is in their beady little brains, they will continue finding reasons to put it off. "Promptly" becomes "whenever there isn't something else to do." That way, if someone like yourself REALLY raises a stink and contacts the CO, they can come back and say...."We've been trying to meet, but we've just been sooooo busy!!"

What can you do about it? Not a thing. That's the beauty of men with control issues. They really don't care about anyone other than themselves.

If you are getting "positive" feedback from the friends, that's a good sign, hang in there, keep asking. The BEST thing you can do is approach the one brother you have the best rappoir with, keep asking him whats going on. You'll get there. All things in time.

Let the end justify the means.

Jack Harper

Virgochik

That is so disgusting. I'm applying my basic rule of thumb I use to Witness behavior: "Would Jesus act like this?" Definitely not!

sarahsmile

opps!

StAnn

I got reinstated but just couldn't stand it. I did it for my son. I had to fade, and fast, to keep my sanity. Good luck to you in your endeavor. I couldn't do it.

BTW, my son is now a happily DF'd 30 year old man and we have a wonderful relationship.

Aunt Fancy

From the things I saw before we left they do not reinstate very quickly now. A teen got into throuble and was very sorry for what she did and they DF's her anyway. She never missed one meeting and had every lesson studied and took notes. It took a year to reinstate her and she didn't even go all the way with the brother. Of course he was reinstated before her!! Another brother was DF's when he was a teen for drinking and he was out for over 20 years and he went to every meeting for a year and they would not reinstate him and he got discouraged and quit going. I think the days are over where you can get DF's and be back in within a few months. Unless it is some rule the elders use in this area. I hope you can get yours done soon so you can move on with your life and do what you can to help your children. If I understood your introduction post it sounded like you let them know you had doubts about the org which they will be skeptical about you and that may push it back further. They may view you as an apostate or trouble maker. They are definitely stalling you and playing games. For some reason they don't have the guts to tell you how they really feel. By the way, you should do some writing because you have a talent for it. Best wishes to you and your family.

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